Beyonce's C-Section Is Bad News for Moms

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nicuBeyonce had a baby girl named Blue Ivy Carter as I'm sure you've heard. I'm really happy for her and Jay-Z -- truly I am. But I am not happy about how things went down at Lenox Hill Hospital in NYC where she gave birth. I almost feel like I can't blame Beyonce and Jay-Z though. All they did was ask the hospital if they could rent out an entire floor while Beyonce had her scheduled c-section. The hospital could have said no. But a lot of money was paid and well, hospitals do need money, and so it was allowed.

And yes, scheduled cesarean. Maybe she had a preexisting condition that made a c-section inevitable. But maybe it was because of her celebrity status that her birth had to be planned in order for them to be able to rent out an entire floor at Lenox Hill. That just makes me sad. It's a bad example for moms. And I'm upset for the families and moms who were birthing there that were very disrupted as a result of all of this. Parents who were denied seeing their newborns.

New dad Neil Nash-Coulon said that he was denied access to the NICU to see his baby because of the security lockdown going on while Beyonce and family were there. He said that this was the case for many as the NICU was on same floor rented out by the singer.

It's been reported that Jay-Z paid 1.3 million dollars for the entire floor, but the hospital has so far kept quiet on the confidential matter.

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I remember when I tried to get a private room after I had my twins because I wanted my husband to be able to spend the night to help me in-room with my two newborns. We were willing to pay the added fee, but were told that there was only one room and it was already taken. Which is fine. I get that. But then I hear of things like this ... renting an entire floor for a one-baby birth and I feel like more should be done for the everyday average Joe and Jane who have multiples and actually NEED to have more space or be able to have the dad stay to help mom. I'm talking about a room too, not a floor.

I also feel that because Beyonce had a scheduled c-section (for whatever reason) it makes so many other women who admire her think that is the glamorous way to birth. It's not. If it's necessary, then it's necessary and that is a different story, but too many of these diva births will have us ending up like China, where the c-section rate is 50 percent. And they have a one-child policy. So a mom is denying herself the rite of passage that is vaginal birth. But China says it's about risks because of the one child policy. So if anything seems less than perfect, then they choose cesarean.

Birth advocates know this is a bad decision. It's bad news for moms. Just look at the story of a mom who had twins, both breech, vaginally without any pain meds. This is trusting birth. Something we all need to do. Doctors need to give women more credit when birthing. Women need to give women more credit when birthing. And like many believe, I too think it's become a women's rights issue. If a doctor tells a woman she can't birth vaginally, she believes and trusts that doctor. But we need to start believing in ourselves. In our abilities. We can't believe in the Beyonce diva way of birth. We can't expect floors to shut down for our baby's arrival. I wish Beyonce didn't feel that she needed that. I get extra security, but how that hospital behaved was wrong. And I'm glad parents are speaking out about it.

We have to stop being passive spectators of our births and be active participators. We have to be very present and patient and active when we are parents, so it should start with the birth of our children.

What do you think of these diva births? Are we generally too passive when it comes to birth? Do you think we need to trust our bodies more?

UPDATE: At the press time of this article, all major news outlets were reporting a 'scheduled c-section' (sourced). The couple has since spoken out and called the birth natural. With or without Beyonce in the mix, the mentality of being 'too posh to push' in childbirth exists.

 

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Misha22 Misha22

Child birth is a very personal act. Such that, why is it any of your business to criticize any mom who has a c-section, choice or not? I chose to have a c-section. No problems with pregnancy, no suggestions from my obgyn. It was my choice 100%. And guess what? I'm the proud mom of a 5 yr old girl and have not once regretted my decision. I think every woman should have the right to choose how she wants her birthing experience to be. Without judgement from the natural hypno birthing camp.

Stacey. Stacey.

I highly doubt your info is accurate that other parents were unable to see their newborns. That would be asking for lawsuits. Sounds like whatever "sources" give this info like to exaggerate.


Michele Zipp if you do not want people to push their beliefs on your uterus, why would you push your beliefs on others?

Stacey. Stacey.

Beyonce and Jay Z have way more money that you could dream about. They will be awesome parents who most likeyl will do everything for their child. I thinks its ridiculous you are calling her a "bad example for moms". I think criticizing another moms birth method is a terrible example for other moms. Also you paying an "added fee" for another room is, Im guessing, no where near paying $1.3 million for a floor. Again, if her birth was "scheduled" the hospital prob. had ample time to prepare for this. You sound like a jealous, catty, biotch.

Celia... Celiacelia

Are you suggesting that because beyonce had a c section that others will do it because she did? That seems a bit unlikely

Melis... Melissa042807

Oh dear, Beyonce had a C-section, THE WORLD IS ENDING!!!!!!!! *eyeroll* 


The only fish I have to fry is that their "security" measures prevented other parents from seeing their babies. Surely the hospital could have worked a little harder to accomodate everyone who had babies in the nursery and the NICU. 

nonmember avatar Jess

"...mom is denying herself the rite of passage that is vaginal birth..." Really? The rite of passage into what? Motherhood? Bull. I have two daughters, both were delivered via C-Section. And I don't feel robbed of anything. This article should have focused more on how utterly ridiculous it was for the hospital to allow them to rent out the entire floor (no matter what amount of money was involved) and not on the C-Section. Until you provide your medical degree, perhaps you should reserve the judgement that this entire article is swimming in.

nonmember avatar Nicci

AMEN SISTER

ashja ashja

Instead of renting the whole wing, why not just hire a private physician and nurse for a home birth (assuming it wasn't a c-section, since we don't know for sure yet)

Torra... TorranceMom

I agree with the author 100%. I'm wondering what kind of "pre-existing" medical condition an apparently healthy 30 year old woman would have that necessitated a scheduled Ceasarian? The rise in Ceasarian births in this country is alarming; when a high profile celebrity like Beyonce gives birth this way, all is does is negatively influence impressionable mothers into thinking that C-sections are the "easy" way to give birth. Most people don't realize that a C-section is a major, invasive surgical procedure with dangerous risks for both mother and child. If Beyonce's C-section was due to medical necessity, it is what it is. However, if she did it for the sake of convenience, I'm calling it a cop out. She had an opportunity to set a great example and chose to be a diva instead.

Mandago Mandago

Until I read this article, I didn't realize I was denied the right of passage that is a vaginal birth. I'm going to cry now... That was sarcasm, writer. How about you and the Stir in general stay out of other women's birth experiences. This article is ridiculous.

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