Camila Alves' Post-Baby Tradition Puts Moms First


camila alvesI think it's unanimous: We all have girl-crushes on Matthew McConaghey's new fiancee, Camila Alves. Former model, mom to their two delectable kiddies -- and did we mention she's not one to jump on the treadmill 10 seconds after she has a baby? Nope, unlike other celeb moms like Victoria Beckham, Camila was not in a hurry to shed the baby weight after having each of their children.

Camila believes in what Brazilians call "quarentena." It's actually practiced all over the world. What it means is that the mother spends time restoring her health and bonding with her baby for a little over a month. For Camila, it was 40 days. And it included no sex!

"Where I come from, we believe in something we call a 40-day break after the baby," Camila said soon after the birth of daughter, Vida. "You have to let your body do its own thing. You give it time to recover and let everything settle down. You kind of respect all the hard work your body has just done and give it a break. For these 40 days, you really take it easy. By that I mean no sex, light, healthy food, no trips to the gym. Then, after 40 days, you are good to go." 

Don't you love how she put that -- "respect all the hard work" your body does? I adore that kind of talk! Of course, most doctors recommend no sexual intercourse for six weeks after giving birth anyway (ehrm, though the determined and enterprising couple will find ways around that). The last thing I wanted to do after having a baby was work out. Taking a shower was about as ambitious as it got for me. And eating healthy just makes sense for mama and baby. 

Anyway, it's nice hearing about a celeb mom who wasn't in a hurry to shrink herself back to Barbie-doll proportions. No disrespect to moms who do that (SIGH, Miranda Kerr) -- it's just a relief to know there's two fewer "HOW SHE LOST ALL THE WEIGHT IN 5 MINUTES" stories out there. I like the "how she lost the weight gradually, at a pace deemed safe by her doctor" stories better. And I love hearing about another mom whose husband supports her taking time to heal and bond with her baby right after birth.

Are you planning a recovery period like Camila Alves' cuarentena when you have your baby? What do you think of the practice?


Image via Vivanista1/Flickr

labor & delivery, motherhood


To add a comment, please log in with

Use Your CafeMom Profile

Join CafeMom or Log in to your CafeMom account. CafeMom members can keep track of their comments.

Join CafeMom or Log in to your CafeMom account. CafeMom members can keep track of their comments.

Comment As a Guest

Guest comments are moderated and will not appear immediately.

nonmember avatar Josi

Just FYI, "cuarentena" is Spanish. Brazilians speak Portuguese, so they call it "quarentena." (same pronunciation)

ashja ashja

"And it included no sex!"  Wow....amazing, aren't you supposed to abstain for 6 weeks anyway? Hmmm...just about 40 days....

MIA0223 MIA0223

This is practiced in my husbands culture.

He was just about horrified when he asked when my mom was coming over to help for 40 days. I.said never, it's not something we do here.

He begged me to let his friends mom come stay. But I did it all on my own ;)

if we have a baby overseas I am sure I will have the 40 days to relax and let my body do it's thing and just.focus on the lo!

nonmember avatar emmecj

Who has sex within 40 days of having a baby anyway? Has this writer ever given birth? Agree with Ashja, my Doc said abstain for 6 weeks or longer.

AliNo... AliNoelle

Um.... I was never able to wait the whole 6 weeks. This sounds kinda great.

notjs... notjstasocermom

wow I couldn't go that long without sex lol

Water... Water_geM

i wish americans did that...

i would eat that shit up..especailly as a c section victim.

ericabb ericabb

Did the writer edit the story or did the previous posters not read the whole thing?  Cuz she did say docs recommend you wait 6 weeks for sex.

I sort of had a 40-day break, with extra help from my husband.  NOT my mother because I wanted to stay friends with her.  ;o)

I lost the baby weight in approximately 5 minutes and I'm allergic to the gym.  It's called eating healthy during pregnancy and not treating it as an excuse to overload on crap.  I gained the recommended amount of 25lbs and it just melted off of me.

Stacey. Stacey.

Doesnt everyone pretty much do this anyway? I mean most doctors wont let you go back to work before 6 weeks, and if you have a baby vaginally sex is like torture until you're fully healed, so i dont see how abstaining is so unheard of. Celebs always act like what they're doing is so admirable, when really it's what us commoners do. its not normal to be walking on a runway 2 weeks later.

nonmember avatar Patti

It is also a Montessori thing. It's called the Symbiotic Period where the purpose is for the baby to bond with the parents and for both mother and baby to heal after birth.

1-10 of 24 comments 123 Last