Fathers-to-Be Don't Need Their Own Doula

baby feetI stumbled upon this ad for a "dudela" which is a doula for fathers-to-be. The post mentioned the various services a dudela would do -- like keep the expectant dad updated on sports scores and prepare his text messages that will go out to friends once baby is born. A dudela would also respond to all incoming calls and texts and make sure all devices have enough charge. All of this so the mother's partner can be there in-the-now while everything else gets taken care of by your hired help, the dudela.

Made you giggle, didn't it? Sounds like it's a joke, right? Well, this dudela is based in New York City, and honestly, it could very well be real considering you can hire someone for just about anything in NYC. But I think it's really unnecessary, unless ....


... you have no family or friends around to help you with that sort of thing. Or you absolutely must be tuned in to everything that goes on around you and this is the only way to really pay attention to the woman who is about to have your child.

If this is a joke (which I think it is), it sure pokes fun at women who hire doulas, and the profession as well. I'm a huge supporter of doulas, and had one for my pregnancy and birth. So I feel like people who would go as far as to take jabs at the profession just don't get the importance of pregnancy and birth -- or understand how a doula can be so helpful. I think birth partners can really help a couple have the birth they want. And doulas aren't just for the mom-to-be but dad-to-be as well. But I also get how it's easy to make fun of a society who seems to hire someone to do everything. Have we turned into a nation who can't do anything for ourselves? If you can afford it, of course.

I wish I could hire people to do certain things for me. Like pooping. Or being sick. Or changing those really watery diapers. But at the same time, I'm okay that those things are a part of my life.

Still, I think having a doula is very different. A doula empowers, educates, encourages. A doula doesn't come in and actually give birth for you.

I emailed "dudela" to see if he was real and so far, no response. I'll keep you posted.

Here is the full ad on Urban Baby, so you can decide for yourself:

A DUDELA? IS THAT LIKE A DOULA? Yes, think of a dudela as being a doula for the mother's partner. Let's face it, our plugged-in modern culture is always making us feel like we should be updating something or checking in somewhere. As a new father myself, I know how tempting it can be to check the Knicks score or respond to comments on Facebook. Let me worry about that kind of thing, and keep you updated on developments in an unobtrusive way. I am there to let you be with your partner so that you can enjoy every second of your child's birth. What I offer: MOBILE DEVICE MANAGEMENT. We will meet before the due date to craft an announcement statement, which I will send via text message to contacts of your choosing within the first hour of your baby's life. During labor and up to two hours after delivery, I will respond to all incoming texts and phone calls, taking messages when required. The battery life on all of your devices is safe in my hands. And what if she's not feeling that Bjork playlist you made for her iPod? I'll put on some Sam Cooke instead. SOCIAL NETWORK COORDINATION. Check you in at the hospital on FourSquare? Check. Update your Facebook status with baby's first picture? I like. Tweet the birth announcement? #Yes FANTASY SPORTS ASSISTANCE. The world of sports will not stop for the birth of your baby. Don't worry whether Curtis Granderson matches up well against David Price (he doesn't) or if the 49ers defense can stop the run (they can). As a veteran of many fantasy leagues, familiar with both the ESPN and Yahoo! platforms, I will ensure your team doesn't miss a beat, so you won't miss a beat in the delivery room. CONCIERGE SERVICES. You're going to want to get some celebratory cigars. Good thing I've been a subscriber to Cigar Aficionado for the last 10 years. (All of these services are also available as part of a Postpartum Package.)

What do you think? Is dudela real? Is a dudela really necessary? Would you hire one?


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