Pregnancy Is the Best Way to Avoid Thanksgiving

baby girl picI have a dirty little secret. I hate Thanksgiving. I know, I know. I'm a very bad person. It's a wonderful holiday about family and close friends coming together, remembering all we're grateful for. It's about cooking and eating a lovely, traditional meal shared long ago by two different cultural groups, the Pilgrims and the Indians. Or something.

But I'm sorry, I just can't get excited about having the same old food every year on a cold, gray, dark late-November day and over-eating until you feel like you're going to die. Not to mention the fact that you're so tired from ingesting all that tryptophan in the turkey and gorging on a huge meal in the middle of the afternoon that you're ready for bed by 5 p.m.

Yes, if there's one holiday I could definitely do without, it's Thanksgiving. It's really just a celebration of that deadly sin called gluttony, isn't it? But this year I've found a pretty creative way to avoid the whole thing altogether. I'm going to have a baby.

I got pregnant around Valentine's Day and am due to give birth Thanksgiving week. Bingo! The perfect excuse to avoid the usual boring old holiday! Brilliant!

So if you're like me and are a bit of a Thanksgiving scrooge, then consider getting knocked up some time in mid-February to get out of it. If you're a man, you get to do the knocking up. Score!

In all seriousness, I think the fact that I'll be having my first baby this week will make me stop being such a sourpuss about the holiday. This year, instead of doing the usual and going home to my parents' house -- where we get together with family friends we've known my whole life -- my parents are coming to our place in New York. Oh, how devilish it feels to defy traditions!

Even more rebellious: We're just ... winging it. No stressful preparations, no elaborate menu, no talk of who will cook what and where we'll eat. No plans at all for what we'll do that day. We might not even have turkey, stuffing, and pumpkin pie. Maybe pizza is in the cards. Maybe Big Macs. The horror!

I think giving birth will make this time of year magical in a way that nothing else ever could. Instead of dreading the holiday (though trust me, I never complain about that four-day weekend), I'll look forward to it every year from this one forward. It will always remind me of how I feel now, this Thanksgiving -- full of anticipation, excitement, hope, and yes, immense gratitude. I will forever be thankful that my daughter arrived when she did. My journey as a mother and my own family are beginning just a few days before a holiday that now, finally, has true meaning for me.

Do you hate Thanksgiving and if so have you ever done anything to avoid it?


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nonmember avatar jice

"It's really just a celebration of that deadly sin called gluttony, isn't it?"

Sounds like my preschooler knows more about why we celebrate Thanksgiving than you do. And really... is it so bad to eat that same meal ONCE a year? It's the only time during the entire year we eat turkey in my family. We love this holiday, we love what we're celebrating, we love spending time with family, I love cooking and baking, and yep... I love the food, especially since most of it is food I only eat once a year.

Justa... Justamom283

I feel like the writer also. It is my least favorite holiday. We see family all year long as it is and cooking and baking is my LEAST favorite thing in the world to do. I hate all the leftovers that no one eats after Thursday anyway. It was really becoming a waste of money because I ended up throwing out food. We started going out to eat so we could get what we want and then come home to a clean house and watch football games. So don't feel bad Catherine it's all about making your own traditions not what everyone else thinks you should do.

Catherine Pycko

Well after my son got diagnosed with his Turkey allergy I decided the important part of the meal is being together. I also didn't like the way I felt about it either. So I've simplified and we are celebrating being together and are thankful for what we have.

It's not about the food it's about being together and enjoying a day of Thanks Giving.

phoen... phoenixmom2011

I have to say I am not the biggest fan of the thanksgiving holiday, writer beware, while this time next year you maybe thankful, your child may not be later on. I harbor resentment to this holiday because my birthday has a tendancy to fall on thanksgiving, while my husband is resentful of christmas because he is a christmas baby. I am thankful for a lot of things, that does not mean I have to be a fan of the holiday, I get the history behind it but how many people know the truth.

golde... goldenpoppy

Honestly, The whole Holiday season is a bummer to me. Money down the drain, xtra unwanted pounds, and a reminder of just how far away you are from family you never see. I wish I could be more positive but everthing has become so comercialized and phony. Where did the spirit of these times go?

Momma... Momma2blessed

Travel with small children is a pain too... So the excuse extends even beyond pregnancy! ;)

Lesle... LesleyMaples

I just don't do it.  I live 2 hours from my hometown, it's a reasonable traveling distance, but I have certain members of my family I don't want to be around so I choose not to be a part of it.  Why should I subject myself to stress and irritation just to be "normal" and do what other people think I should do so they'll feel better.  I'm a state employee and get paid once a month, so realistically, I don't have the money to travel.  I had 3 different people offer to give me money to get home with and I declined.  I just really don't want to be there.  We haven't done traditional Thanksgiving in several years because of my dad's illness, and now that he's passed, everyone wants to do it.  And i was already hearing my mother complain last night about how she forgot how tiring it is to cook, and they are all probably sitting around right now saying that we are not doing this again next year.  And yet they will. 

nonmember avatar J.K

I'm a surrogate and was due in December but the babies came early. They arrived 2 weeks before Thanksgiving but I used their birth and my c-section to get out of going to my family's house or my husband's family's house this year. We wanted a low-key day here and didn't want the guilt associated with skipping the routine swapping off of the holiday between families.

I'm thankful for the excuse not to travel and thankful the babies came earlier so I could enjoy the holiday and they could enjoy the holiday with their parents. And, I'm thankful they gave me a good excuse to enjoy by favorite holiday surrounded by my own kids and husband as opposed to being annoyed by family idiosyncrasies in our respective families.

* Mwah! *

white... whitebreads

I'm due any day actual due date is the 30th but I'm already dialated to 4cm so yeah...anytime. I ended up giving into Thanksgiving and doing my husbands families house and my parents house. I didn't want to especially after a grueling night of false labor but I fully intend on bailing for Christmas so we had to put in our time now. I'm not bringing a newborn around to a million houses this Christmas.

nrich... nrichardson89

Lol I just had my baby today! My water broke right after I put the turkey in the oven, so I didn't have to cook a thing.

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