Parenting

What Goes Into Choosing a Godparent?

Jessica Simpson and BFF Ken PavesDespite spending most of her life in the public eye, Jessica Simpson has stayed pretty mum about her pregnancy thus far -- which, of course, has only made people more curious. The tabloids have been chasing the pop star and her friends, in hopes of gaining the tiniest tidbit of gossip.

So, obviously, Jessica's hairdresser/BFF, Ken Paves, has been a target. If anyone's going to know anything, it's him, right? Wrong. Well, maybe. Ken may have just been playing coy when he recently answered a question about whether he was going to be Baby Simpson's godfather. He said, "I don’t know, she hasn’t asked me yet. You never know, I’ll have to ask her!”

Godparents, eh? Hmph. Despite the 9 million things that have been coursing through my brain since I got pregnant, this one managed to slip by. See, in spite of my Catholic upbringing, I'm really not religious. But now I'm wondering: Should my kid have godparents? And if so, what goes into choosing them?

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I know that, typically, a sibling of the mom and a sibling of the dad are chosen for the role, and, again, typically, they really don't do a heck of a lot in terms of "godparent" duties. At least that's been my experience. But what do you do if you or your baby daddy have more than one sibling? What if you don't think your sibling is the best person for the job? Do people really put this much thought into choosing a godparent, or is it more of a haphazard, obvious choice?

I'm not 100 percent sure what I'm going to do in terms of getting my child christened/having godparents. On one hand, I feel sort of silly having a christening, because, as I mentioned, I'm really not religious; but on the other hand -- without getting into too many details -- I think it's something that my late mother would have wanted ... and I like the idea of my child having a pair of godparents. 

To be honest, my godparents have no impact on my life whatsoever. My godmother is my aunt, who's a perfectly sweet woman, and my godfather is a cousin of my father's who no one in the family has seen for about 20 years. I love my aunt, but I don't necessarily look up to her -- and I don't go to her first if I have a problem. I know she would be there for me in a heartbeat if I needed her, and I know she'll always be in my life, but, I don't know, seems like kind of a half-assed choice. Sorry, Mom and Dad.

If my husband and I do decide to get our child baptized/pick godparents, I want people who are really unique and special -- and people who I know will always be in our lives. But I also don't want to hurt anybody's feelings. I have a sister who would be heartbroken if she wasn't chosen, and my husband has two brothers. How do we pick between them?

There really isn't a nice, neat wrap-up to this post, as, well, I haven't decided what I'm going to do in the time it's taken me to write this. I do know that I have yet another decision to make before, or shortly after, my baby comes, though. And this one's a lot more complicated than "Where do we put the crib?"

Does your baby have godparents? How did you choose them?

 

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