Mother Donates Womb to Help Daughter Have a Baby

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baby toesMelinda Arnold, 34, was born without a womb. For years she and her husband have tried to fulfill their dream of becoming parents through IVF, adoption, and three surrogate attempts to no avail. Instead of giving up, she's instead planning to undergo a groundbreaking procedure in which her own mother's womb will be transplanted into her body.

The nurse from Melbourne, Australia, will be the country's first woman to undergo such a procedure and one of the first few in the world. It's planned for early next year in Sweden and isn't without risk or controversy, but is driven by love.

It's amazing to think that the very womb one came from could be used to birth one's own child. What a beautiful testament of a mother's devotion. We all say we would put down our lives for our kids, but would we be willing to undergo such a major surgery (her mother, Denise Allen, will have to undergo a full hysterectomy) to help them fulfill one of their dreams?

While part of me questions if it's really worth the risk of two major operations just on the chance that it might someday result in a live birth, I don't question one's desperate need to have a child. If they hadn't attempted adoption, that would be one thing, but if even that failed, then I can imagine how such a risk becomes less about what might happen and more about what might not.

She has been dreaming of being a mother since she was 3 and told The Australian she would never forgive herself if she didn't at least try this surgery:

I know some people see this as risky. If I had a child I would never take that risk, but I don't.

Doctors say after the surgery, she'll need to wait 12 months before trying to conceive. Then they can attempt IVF again. Hopefully, it will result in the baby she so desperately wants and who will surely have the most devoted grandmother in the world.

What do you think of womb transplants? Would you donate your womb to your daughter?


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nonmember avatar me

I think I would adopt.

navyw... navywife0204

if one of my daughters had the same problem, then yes, I absolutely would! 

RN_713 RN_713

This is a beautiful story. I would do the same for my daughter if she needed me to!

manna... manna8288

If she doesn't have a womb how did she try IVF? Can someone explain that to me?

That would be awesome though if she'll be able to have her own child with the donated womb. Wishing her lots of luck.

dilly... dillyboysmom

I'm with manna8288.  Does not having a womb mean you don't have a uterus, or is the womb seperate?

corri... corrinacs

I would say IVF with surrogate....but they didn't say....when I went through IF I had so many tests, they would have NOTICED if I didn't have a uterus LOL.  SO, I am assuming surrogacy in conjuntion with IVF.

Memph... MemphisSuzi

I think thats incredibly risky but if they are both willing to give it go more power to them.  I know the desperate need to have a child, but there is a point when you just have to find peace with the fact that you can't. 


On a side note, I think that people who "try" to adopt but somehow fail do so because they are to specific; ie, white male infant, etc.... and I cant help but wonder that if you are SO desperate to have a child then why are you so closed minded about which one you get?  And I say this after having the option to adopt several children in under a year out of foster care.  Just a thought.

popta... poptart0325

This is very sweet and generous of the mother.  I can't even begin to imagine how grateful her daughter must be.


I can't say that I would do the same until I'm put in a situation like this. 

Mommy... Mommy2Aaliyah

I would do it for my daughter.. Good luck to them, and I hope it works :)

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