Finally, a pregnant woman who speaks the truth. No endless waxing on about pregnancy being the most magical, amazing experience of her life like some famous women (ahem, Alyssa Milano), but rather Carla Bruni, First Lady of France, says she wants her booze and cigarettes back.
As bluntly as possible, she recently told La Pariseian that being pregnant is driving her crazy:
Frankly, I cannot stand it. I have to stay sitting or lying most of the time, cannot smoke or drink wine. I cannot wait for it to end.
Swap the cigarettes for a cold, lunch meat sandwich, and I was right there with Bruni when I was pregnant. As excited as I was about the babies I was carrying and preparing for them, I also really missed my wine and sandwiches. Nine months is a long time, and besides an occasional sip, I wasn't one to indulge while I was pregnant, so I really missed it.
But when you mention missing vices, some women get all smug and judgey -- how dare you complain about something so trite when you're given the gift of pregnancy. This commenter at BabyCenter pretty much sums up the sort of ridiculous reaction some offer up:
Oh poor baby. To be so completely burdened by the miracle of pregnancy and childbirth. And on top of that, she actually has to make a sacrifice for her child by not drinking or smoking. Wowzers. Some people sure have a tough life…..* rolls eyes *
But pregnancy isn't all one big, warm, fuzzy journey (sorry, it's just not), and it's okay to want things you're not supposed to have. Some would argue it's okay to even have the things you're not "supposed" to have in moderation, but that's another argument for another time.
So I say good for Bruni and her bluntness. Whether they admit it or not, most women likely feel just like she does about something. Maybe it's not alcohol or cigarettes, but there are things we all give up to bear children that we wish we didn't have to, and admitting it doesn't make us bad mothers. It makes us the best kind of mothers -- human.
What did you miss most when you were pregnant?
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Damn Eve and her disobeying God! haha! I have a 2 month old son, that I was dying to get pregnant for since my 8 year old son was 2 months old. Only because my ex husband decided I would never get pregnant again and he got snipped. Too bad for him I'm in another relationship. I have 4 children. And believe Me, Not ONE of those pregnancies can I say I enjoyed to the fullest... but God strike me dead if I was to EVER say I didn't love each of my babies... btw. I indulged my desires once in awhile during every pregnancy. Whose a doctor or research that's barely backed up to say what is good for me or my baby? Sorry I'm not one of those "omg I have to do whatever my doctor says!" type. Because I honestly think most of them are full of shit cause they just want the money. They don't care like they used to.
TBH I HATE being pregnant. I love my kids to death, but I hated being pregnant. I was in copious amounts of pain the whole time with each boy. The last pregnancy I felt the same way as Mrs. Bruni. I wanted a cigarette and beer and the pregnancy to be OVER.
There's nothing wrong with that. Once you've had enough, you've had enough. It's not like she's actually smoking and drinking, she jusst wants to be. Who said wishful thinking is wrong now?
@svolkov yea i saw that last night I'm always glad for new information. I have been both a smoking parent and a non smoking parent. I feel that i should point out because it seems that I may be mis understood....my rant wasnt not to dispute whether the smoke lingers on you after smoking (which I admitedly didnt believe until i read it) it was to the coment that people that smoke don't care about their kids. On a funny note though when I first saw the comment about smoke lingering after youre done I got the mental image of that guy pig pen from the peanuts cartoons walking around in a cloud and I'm thinking wtf that doesn't ake sense. Anyway I thought it was funny.
Let me clarify because I think I get caught up in ranting sometimes and do not clearly indicate the specific section of society I'm ranting at.
If you are completely unaware of the dangers to your children, fine (though I would encourage you to educate yourself on those dangers). But, if you know the dangers and you continue to smoke, it seems fairly obvious to me that you care more about yourself than the health of your kids. You will be hard pressed to convince me that you love your kids more than life itself, but you're still going to subject them to carcinogens that you have it in your power to protect them from simply because you enjoy a cigarette.
I, too, shall put this to bed now. I think I've said everything I need to. (Hears audible sigh of relief from people who get sick of my ranting....)
Sometimes ranting is good to for the soul......at least thats what I tell myself.
I was miserable when I was pregnant... and I craved Margaritas!!!!
And I wanted to smoke so bad.