Finally, a pregnant woman who speaks the truth. No endless waxing on about pregnancy being the most magical, amazing experience of her life like some famous women (ahem, Alyssa Milano), but rather Carla Bruni, First Lady of France, says she wants her booze and cigarettes back.
As bluntly as possible, she recently told La Pariseian that being pregnant is driving her crazy:
Frankly, I cannot stand it. I have to stay sitting or lying most of the time, cannot smoke or drink wine. I cannot wait for it to end.
Swap the cigarettes for a cold, lunch meat sandwich, and I was right there with Bruni when I was pregnant. As excited as I was about the babies I was carrying and preparing for them, I also really missed my wine and sandwiches. Nine months is a long time, and besides an occasional sip, I wasn't one to indulge while I was pregnant, so I really missed it.
But when you mention missing vices, some women get all smug and judgey -- how dare you complain about something so trite when you're given the gift of pregnancy. This commenter at BabyCenter pretty much sums up the sort of ridiculous reaction some offer up:
Oh poor baby. To be so completely burdened by the miracle of pregnancy and childbirth. And on top of that, she actually has to make a sacrifice for her child by not drinking or smoking. Wowzers. Some people sure have a tough life…..* rolls eyes *
But pregnancy isn't all one big, warm, fuzzy journey (sorry, it's just not), and it's okay to want things you're not supposed to have. Some would argue it's okay to even have the things you're not "supposed" to have in moderation, but that's another argument for another time.
So I say good for Bruni and her bluntness. Whether they admit it or not, most women likely feel just like she does about something. Maybe it's not alcohol or cigarettes, but there are things we all give up to bear children that we wish we didn't have to, and admitting it doesn't make us bad mothers. It makes us the best kind of mothers -- human.
What did you miss most when you were pregnant?
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to the mother of two monkeys just because you write something in a different font does not make it a fact, it makes it your opinion in fancy letters. your comment is not only judgemental it's just stupid. smoking alone does not decide if a person is a good parent or not that is ridiculous. if it's your opinion fine everyone is entitled to one. IN MY OPINION (see what i just did there still doesn't make it a fact, just my opinion) women who have kids should not smoke in the house or around their kids. if they smoke outside there is no harm. as for saying that the "smoke" lingers on your clothes, please explain. the smoke does not linger the smell might so does that mean that people who smell funny are bad parents as well? i really really hope that you are perfect in every way and do everything right with raisin your kid. I would hate to find out that you are a hypocrite on top of being a moron (in my opinion).
Pregnancy does suck. I hate those people who just think it's so "magical." What a crock of shit. Or that the baby is "God's miracle" No, it isn't. It's pure science. You had sex, or fertility treatments and made a baby. Get over yourself mommies.
Italics is not a different font. Nor is bold. They are stylistic choices meant to emphasize to make a point.
You're entitled to your opinion. However, my opinion is supported by true things, which some of us like to call "facts". I will provide you with a link to these true things:
http://www.no-smoke.org/learnmore.php?id=671
You're welcome.
I do not claim to be perfect, but it is my opinion (see how I italicized it for emphasis?) that women who smoke care more about themselves than the health of their children. It's going to be very difficult to convince me otherwise, and insulting me isn't going to do it.
So, while the true things, or "facts" that support my opinion may offend you, calling me a moron doesn't make them any less true.
Thanks for the link I'll be sure to read it. I am truly not offended at all like i said everyone is entitled to their own opinion if thats yours thats fine. To be fair though claiming that people that smoke dont care about their kids is just as insulting as calling someone a moron. It's hard to see with all the pressure that parents go through already that paople lash out at them when they really don't know them at all. I guess in a perfect world mothers would be more supportive or at least less judgemental of each other. Anyway I guess I'll put it to bed now. Providing the link is a good start though educate instead of belittle it works better.
also to brigitt as well no backlash here dont worry in my coment i asked for someone to explain, I had never heard that before.
I miss double espresso drinks and my waist...but really big deal lol I have quit smoking with a prior pregnancy about a month before I got pregnant...it does suck but really yet again big deal....and it may be 9 months for her but i breastfed mine for a long time so you can pretty much triple that time of being extra careful....as for sushi; try to veggie and cooked rolls...they really are almost as good and can really satiate that craving! i have it about once a week!
@ lisa moore there is actually proof and many studies done on what they now refer to as "third hand smoke" ....so if you can smell it on your clothes, house, or vehicle even if you dont actually smoke anywhere near your children they are still getting exposed to toxic chemicals. It sucks...good for you for not smoking any where near your kids but unfortunately it really is still getting to them :/
I have smoked...never while pregnant/breastfeeding and never anywhere around my son or where he could even see it, but it is still something I felt ashamed about; not the example I wanted to set for my sons. So i quit..chantix worked great for me..not for everyone but just know your children are being effected.