Sofia Vergara Speaks Out On the Benefits of Teen Pregnancy

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sofia vergaraTeen pregnancy gets a bad rap though not in Sofia Vergara's eyes. The show Teen Mom doesn't really help matters. Some moms who watch the show probably think Oh my gosh please don't turn my daughter into one of those troubled girls and even teens who watch may think twice when saying no to birth control. As for me ... I stand in the middle, and Vergara has got me thinking. I want the best for my kids. We all do ... except for the select few crazies. But being a teen mom doesn't have to mean doom. I know women who were teen moms who have amazing children, who are nothing like Jenelle or Amber. If my mom was a teenager when she had me, I would sure be glad she did.

And I think that's why the Modern Family star is speaking out In Redbook on how she had her first child when she was just 19 ... and she and her son turned out just fine. She's even talking about the benefits.

Vergara's son, Manolo, is now 19 -- the same age she was when she had him. Wait a minute ... wow ... Sofia is my age and she has a 19-year-old son!? THAT just blew my mind. My kids are not even 2 yet. And that's exactly why I have a little bit of envy for young moms. I feel like they will be around to see their kid grow kind of old. I know I'm "young" in the scheme of things and I feel young and sprightly (ha) and I survived and actually loved the early days of my twins and the barely getting any sleep part. But as Sofia says of her teenage years, "I had the energy for everything."

I have the energy for (almost) everything and you would think so too as long as you didn't look in my messy closets so I'm not worried about me. But I do get what she is saying. Sort of. However just because you have the energy for everything doesn't mean you want to have the energy to care for a baby. My teen years are a haze of staying up late and sleeping past noon.

Still, I don't think it's about energy or living long ... it's about being ready. Even when you don't really think you are ready. Ready to make that commitment. That fantastical, beautiful commitment of parenthood. Some women are ready to become a mom at a young age. Maybe we, as a whole, shouldn't be hard on all teen moms.

But talk to me in 16 years and my daughter having news like this for me and it might be a different story.

What do you think about Sofia's statement? Do you think teen moms deserve the bad rap they get?

 

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Poiso... PoisonousHoney

I had my first kid at 21 and I will be having my second at 23. Granted I'm not a 'Teen Mom' but I am a young mom. I'm glad I had my kids young. I always knew I wanted to have my kids young. I was already married for more then a year when I found out I was pregnant with my first. I don't think ANYONE is ready to be a parent until they are one and even then it's all a guessing game and trial and error. Now don't get me wrong, I don't like seeing teens having babies, I think they should wait and I would be heart broken if my daughter came home at 16 and told me she was pregnant, but I don't think her life would be over either. Yes, life changes, life is harder now, you have to grow up faster and you miss out on a lot of being young, which is why I discourage teens from getting pregnant, but IF it happens, life does go on.

Allison Priest Leonard

I pretty much agree with the above poster. I don't really think there are "benefits" to being a teen mom, but it's not the end of the world. If you are motivated and determined, you can still succeed. Also, I think energy is kind of different for each person. I'm 21 and my 55 year old mother in law has more energy than me.

acrog... acrogodess

I had my 1st at 20 and 2nd at 22. I am severely anemic and I'm always fatigued, but I had way more energy then than I do. I don't think I would be able to handle raising infants now and I am not old. I'll be 31 soon, but between my anemia and vitamin D deficiency I'm am even more tired than I was back then.

PonyC... PonyChaser

There's a difference between being a "young mom" by choice, and a "teen mom" by mistake.


A young mom who is married, maybe with a job, or whose husband has a job, at least has a stable situation in which to raise children. She/they may have already thought through the ramifications, and are ready to have kids young. Likely she's 19, 20, whatever, has at least completed high school, maybe some college.


A teen mom - in the definition that is most used - is unmarried, and got pregnant by accident. She is not prepared. She doesn't have a husband (and I'm sorry, a husband IS a huge help when you have kids), she may have a fractured family, either before the pregnancy or because of the pregnancy. Hers is not the ideal situation. It's not even the "tough but happy" situation of young, married and pregnant.


There's a HUGE difference. I agree with the first, that it can be a great adventure, and won't screw up the kids. But to celebrate the second is to further make it acceptable to be irresponsible.

melro... melrose79

I agree with Vergara. There are some benefits to being a teen mom. I had my daughter when I was 18 & she's 14 now. I certainly wouldn't want to be dealing with her mood swings while going through menopause & feel bad for moms who do. Like my mom. Lol. Also my daughter's what saved me. I was a wild teen always up to no good. When I was pregnant with her at 17 I straightened out & grew up alot. I can't say the same for her father, my husband. He's still working on it. ;P

SexyD... SexyDiva19

I was 15 when I got pregnant with my son and 16 when I had him. I am now 22 and my son is 6 years old. I think there are good and bad benefits of becoming a teen mom. Most people only reflect on the bad like the girls dropping out of school, being on welfare forever, single parenting, etc.

Some teen moms are great moms, they do the best they can with what little knowledge they have about raising a child, they work and go to school. Some teen moms drop out of school, expect everyone to take care of their kid for them and stay on welfare forever

There are pros and cons to becoming a parent at any age, what matters is that the mom is ready or can become to ready.

mommix4 mommix4

I was 17 when I got pregnant with ds. I was outta control before I got pregnant. As soon as that second pink line showed up I grew up quick. I had him 11 days after my 18th bday. We got married 8 months later then had our dd at 19. We had our 3rd at 24 and our 4th at 25. Its been hard but I wouldn't change it at all! I happy to say that we've been married for almost 13yrs!

butte... butterflymkm

I was 19 when I had my DD. I wasn't married but we were engaged and living together (still are) I always knew I wanted to be a young mother. My parents were older when they had me (my dad was 38) and I always felt like I didn't get a lot of hands on play with them an I wanted that for my children. It's a tradeoff. My parents were more financially stable but unable to play with me as much and I had the misfortune of watching my mother die at age 13 and all my grandparents dieing while I was really young. I chose being able to be more active with my daughter and to have her be able to have her grandparents in her life longer over having more financial security. One was more important to me than the other based on my personal experiences. Other peoples milage may vary and other peoples goals and desires may be different. To me, having family around longer (which of course is no guarentee but is more likely) was more important even though I am still trying to finish college while also being a parent.

Freela Freela

There's not an 'ideal' time to have a baby.  Some people have children young and step up to the plate and are great parents.  Others could be thirty-five and still aren't willing to put a child ahead of themselves.  I was a 'young-ish' mom (early 20s) and it was fine- realistically, for me, I was ready and was happy to be finished my family with three kids before thirty.

Littl... Little_Mamma230

My mom had me when she was 17 and I turnee out fine. I am married to a wounderful husband for 4 yrs now and we have two wounderful kids a girl and boy. I was 22 yrs old when I had my little girl and I was 24 yrs old when I had my son. I am now 25 yrs old and I love my kids no matter what age I am young or old. My two kids are the first grands, great-grands, and great-great-grands, and yes the only two great-great-grandmas are still alive and kickin. I am glade that I did have them as young as I did, bc my baby brother who is 8 yrs old has his dad who is 46-48 yrs old and our mom who is 43-45yrs old.

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