It's My Baby & I Can Choose Cesarean if I Want To

Finally, someone wrote about it! Any time someone on this site comments and says the SAME thing, they are "a troll". There seems to be way too many moms out there that need to get off their high horse about HOW they got their kid out of them. Because, let's face it, a c-section baby is NOT going to turn out any different than a home-birth baby because of how it was born. And, if the way you got your baby out of you is the greatest accomplishment you've made in your life, you need to reevaluate it.

Eh, it comes from anywhere. Saying I didn't need nor want a single bottle in my house got me eyerolls and called bad names. Saying I didn't want an epidural? Gets me called a stupid hippie martyr with a superiority complex. God forbid I announce I'm proud that on my daughter's 2nd birthday, she was still breastfeeding and rear-facing, as per recommendations? Makes me some FREAK in certain groups.

Just ignore them. If you're not interested in information others try to share (and it's WORTH IT to always read both sides of anything, even if you know what you think going into it), then just blow it off. :) You control how you feel. Other people can't ruin ANYTHING for you if you don't let them in.

they're called pregnancy police honey, and they are everywhere. they've been around since the dawn of time... before we gave them the lovely 'pregnancy police' moniker we all love, they were known as nosy, busybodies... you get the idea.

it's up to you to digest what you want from friends and family and other 'well meaning' folks in your life. being indignant and wishing people would leave you alone doesn't change the situation. you'll still get strangers trying to touch your belly, or someone's granny telling you formula is the devil's milk, or your auntie telling you to back away from the microwave before you fry your unborn kiddo. if you want to have a c-section, that is your choice! (as an aside, both of my kids were born via c-section for medical reasons. i have no regrets.)

(cont) one of my favorite pregnancy books (which you MUST read if you haven't already) is The Girlfriend's Guide to Pregnancy. in it, she says (and i paraphase): who cares if you have a natural birth, drugs or no drugs, or need a c-section? at the end, a healthy mom and baby are all that matters, and there are no awards or announcements on the intercom congratulating someone for doing it one way or another. so when they ask what name you picked, tell them 'seven'! (ah, seinfeld. miss you.) if they ask about a c-section, tell them you were hoping to having the baby removed through your thighs to hide the scar better. but don't let it get to you... you're a mommy now, and the best choices are the educated ones you make! :)

I agree that it comes from both sides.  As far as the first comment,  I completly accept that you thing that those choices are wrong but I think that you should clarify that those choices are wrong for you not for others.  That is the problem.  It is hard to ignore some of the comments sometimes.  For instance, I tried desperately to breast feed. My daughter wouldn't do it.  I went to various lactations consultants and everything.  I ended up pumping for her for 6 months but I did have to supplement with formula.  While buying formula one day, I was approached by a stranger and told that I was damning my child for life by giving her formula and how dare I be so selfish.  So just to echo the writer and the above comments everyone is entitled to their own beliefs and opinions but please be respectful of others you don't always know the whole story.

 

There are know-it-all moms who force their opinions down other people's throats.

There are other moms who offer advice on what they have learned or studied.

There are other moms who refuse to look at any evidence and make stupid decisions based on what they want rather than looking at facts.

But why talk about these things in the first place? Isn't it kind of a personal matter what you do with your boobs, vagina, etc.?? Personally I do NOT want to know. It's enough to just wish and hope for a safe birth, a healthy baby, and a successful mothering experience.

pezcharlotte....no, I don't need to clarify that these choices are wrong for me, because I think they are wrong in general, not jsut for me. If you really need a c-section, that's one thing. if you just want one, that's weird. But I don't see any need for formula except for the 4-5% that's physically cannot breastfeed.

A great thing to do if someone says something negative about you buying formula or diapers and you want them off your back, instead of "arguing" what they're saying, tell them you're buying it to donate to the food bank and do it often because you have a young child and you want to help others with children the same age. It puts a positive spin on it in their minds and really it's not their business anyways! Just remember to do that once in a while because there are those who do need the help sometimes too.