When the news broke that Tori Spelling had been in a car accident at her kids' school caused by aggressive paparazzi chasing her down, my heart fell into my stomach. No, I'm not one of those "OMG, celebs are my BFFs" bloggers. Never met Tori. Probably never will. But I do know what it's like to be pregnant when you're in a car accident.
And reading what some have termed Tori's hysterical tweets took me back to that day six and a half years ago, when I was carrying precious cargo in my stomach and a truck failed to yield the right of way at a stop sign, pulling out in front of me. I had nowhere to go. I had no choice. I plowed right into him, the four-door car we'd so proudly purchased just one month prior to prepare for car seat and stroller crumpling around us.
In Tori's elongated tweet she admitted she was in shock. Hysterical or not, she was probably more with it than I was at the time to even acknowledge that. I climbed out of the car and started yelling at the other driver about the stop sign, ending my rant with the words "and I'm PREGNANT."
In all honesty, that was the only thing that weighed on my mind at the moment. Pregnant, pregnant, pregnant. And that's what stood out most about the Tori situation. I noticed she made no mention of the state of her other kids in her tweet. That's not a judgment. They were fine. She could assess that easily.
But I remember standing on that cold winter day in the middle of the road wholly unconcerned with myself or my husband (who, as it turned out, had some minor issues as he took the brunt of the impact -- he later said he was relieved it kept me, and our daughter, from taking it). I wanted to know only about the person inside me. And more frustrating than anything was not knowing. We were at a point early enough along -- it was December, she wouldn't be born until June -- that she wasn't yet kicking or showing "life" to give me some sign that she was in there.
Tori had every right to be hysterical yesterday. She wasn't thinking about her. She was thinking about her baby. She wasn't an actress or a diva. She was a pregnant woman in a car accident.
Have you ever been in a car accident while pregnant? What went through your mind?
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Comments 8
I agree, she acted like most other pregnant women would.
She acted like a normal pregnant woman that had just had a car accident. Totally normal.
I was in an accident a week ago. So low speed my air bags didn't deploy and I still wanted an ambulance to come check out the baby. So yeah. I would have been more concerned if she wasn't freaking.
Ah, yes. The preservation of our gene pool. No, I'm not smirking. I do remember the feelings of motherhood. But now, as a Grandmother, it really isn't much different, I still don't sleep well when my granddaughter is ill and stays with us. I have to check on her just like I did for my kids. I would definitely lay down my life for my granddaughter. It is our nature.
I don't fault her for being hysterical. It's a normal reaction and I would feel the same way. My MIL and FIL's neighbor was several months pregnant years ago (before they met) and lost her baby. I can imagine wanting a child so badly and having it ripped from you in an instant. It's devastating. If Tori had reacted without incident, then I would find that odd.
My heart goes out to her. I was in a car accident while we were ttc- someone ran a stop sign and plowed into the driver's side door of my car. I didn't even know if I was pregnant or not (turns out I wasn't) but because I was in the two week wait and hoping to be pregnant, it was one of the first thing that crossed my mind. I also refused to take any of that nice pain meds for whiplash until I knew for sure that I wasn't pregnant. I was never in an accident while actually pregnant, but from a complicated pregnancy with my middle child I know how terrifying it is to be scared for your baby and not to know if they're okay in there, so I completely understand Tori's upset. I would react the exact same way. I hope both she and baby are okay!
I probably would have harmed the other driver, mostly becaue in her case it was stalkerrazzi who didn't belong there in the first place. I would have tweeted, status updated and foursquared it just so some other angry people nearby could come lend me a hand. I have never been a big fan of Tori but she seems to be a good, if a bit over the top, mom.