When the news broke that Tori Spelling had been in a car accident at her kids' school caused by aggressive paparazzi chasing her down, my heart fell into my stomach. No, I'm not one of those "OMG, celebs are my BFFs" bloggers. Never met Tori. Probably never will. But I do know what it's like to be pregnant when you're in a car accident.
And reading what some have termed Tori's hysterical tweets took me back to that day six and a half years ago, when I was carrying precious cargo in my stomach and a truck failed to yield the right of way at a stop sign, pulling out in front of me. I had nowhere to go. I had no choice. I plowed right into him, the four-door car we'd so proudly purchased just one month prior to prepare for car seat and stroller crumpling around us.
In Tori's elongated tweet she admitted she was in shock. Hysterical or not, she was probably more with it than I was at the time to even acknowledge that. I climbed out of the car and started yelling at the other driver about the stop sign, ending my rant with the words "and I'm PREGNANT."
In all honesty, that was the only thing that weighed on my mind at the moment. Pregnant, pregnant, pregnant. And that's what stood out most about the Tori situation. I noticed she made no mention of the state of her other kids in her tweet. That's not a judgment. They were fine. She could assess that easily.
But I remember standing on that cold winter day in the middle of the road wholly unconcerned with myself or my husband (who, as it turned out, had some minor issues as he took the brunt of the impact -- he later said he was relieved it kept me, and our daughter, from taking it). I wanted to know only about the person inside me. And more frustrating than anything was not knowing. We were at a point early enough along -- it was December, she wouldn't be born until June -- that she wasn't yet kicking or showing "life" to give me some sign that she was in there.
Tori had every right to be hysterical yesterday. She wasn't thinking about her. She was thinking about her baby. She wasn't an actress or a diva. She was a pregnant woman in a car accident.
Have you ever been in a car accident while pregnant? What went through your mind?
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