Since Khloe Kardashian married Lamar Odom in the fall of 2009, the speculation that's always sort of bugged me is whether Khloe is pregnant yet. I mean, yes, there's Kim's sex tape and they aired the freakin' birth of Kourtney's son on the show, so no, nothing is sacred with the "K" bunch. Still, struggling to conceive is something so private -- it's why I can't stand the Hollywood "bump watch" of so many young, married actresses.
That being said, I think if you put it out there to the world that you desperately want a baby, what do you expect? Yes, Khloe, I'm talking to you...
After I'd been married about two years, I was at a family function when a second cousin got up from her table and walked over to me to ask if I was pregnant. I responded with, "No, it's just a billowy dress, but I guess it makes me look like I have a belly, huh?" She got pretty embarrassed, apologized, and walked back to her table with her tail between her legs. But later that night, I cried to my husband, partly because I felt insulted, but mostly because we had been trying to get pregnant for several months, without success, and I suddenly felt scrutinized and wondered if my whole family was on bump watch.
The difference between Khloe and me though is that my husband and I kept our baby-making very private, and didn't tell anyone (aside from very close family and a few friends) when we had started trying. In an episode of Keeping Up With the Kardashians that taped soon after the Odoms married, Khloe gets a positive on a home pregnancy test, and then, days later, gets her period. Watching what might have been a very early miscarriage, I felt badly for Khloe, and still feel sympathy to this day. Obviously, she may have thought that things would have turned out differently when they first started taping the "I think I might be pregnant" episode. But does she seriously not get where all the "is she or isn't she" dialogue is coming from now? Khloe, you opened the door to scrutiny and speculation.
When you're trying to conceive, it's your choice who you want to share it with -- maybe you tell no one, maybe you tell just close friends, maybe you tell damn near anyone who will listen. But those who know you are trying (and even those who don't) are probably going to notice if you turn down a glass of wine, keep making trips to the restroom, or are wearing a particularly roomy shirt. And if it takes awhile for you to get pregnant, as it seems to be for Khloe and Lamar, then those people are going to realize it. You can't take back something you've already planted in other people's heads. Only you will know if you're okay with that.
Did you share with people when you were trying to conceive or keep it under wraps?
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