Infertile People Need Infertile Friends

Amy Kuras
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One of the harder parts of going through infertility is the feeling that you are very alone, as you watch friends have children, and those children grow, while you're still stuck in trying-to-conceive world. Even the most supportive and well-meaning of friends just don't get it unless they have been there themselves.

That's when a support group can come in handy. Resolve has infertility support groups nationwide that allow you to be in a group of people in which everyone there gets what you're going through (and as a personal plug, our local one was such a comfort to us ... love Resolve).

Some clinics are even offering support to patients as part of their treatment. 

The CNY Center for Fertility, in New York state, offers an enormous amount of support options to their patients: a dedicated staff person, group counseling, tele-workshops, peer support groups, and even a one-on-one "Fertile Friends" program that pairs people with similar treatment experiences for an eight-week program.

I don't know of too many other clinics that are going that far to provide care and support for their patients. Infertility is a life crisis, but it's one of those things that people seem to think you should just put your chin up and deal with. Having someone who understands, for example,  exactly why a negative pregnancy test is so shattering could be so helpful in finding the strength to keep going.

On the other hand, this pairing program could be kind of a minefield ... after all, what happens if one of you gets pregnant right away and the other goes through cycle after cycle with no baby? What if your chemistry just doesn't work? What if an atheist who relies on science is paired with a religious person who relies on faith? Or can couples facing infertility look past all that in the name of support?

Would you have benefited from a support program?


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