Welcome to the most disturbing thing you will read all day. A parenting blog is promoting special needs adoption because it can save you money! Maybe even make you money!
In a bizarre send-up for adoption that casts kids as commodities, EzineMark advises, "Special needs adoption will not only be less expensive, but you may even get incentives from the government to take care of the child. These incentives are in the form of social security income, subsidies, and tax deduction as well." So, I've been getting it wrong all this time. When I imagine a family bring home a child the first thing, I've been imagining smiling faces and a giant Cupid shooting little love arrows into Mom and Dad's butts. I should be thinking about the dollar, dollar bills!
At the heart of it, the description is accurate. Children with special needs are considered "harder to place" by the adoption community, and part of the reason is the immense financial burden their care can put on a family's shoulders. Parents who adopt a child with special needs are often eligible for a federal tax credit as well as monies paid to them by the government to help cover expenses.
But there's nothing in this article to convey the true reason for adoption -- a man or woman or both want to become parents. So they adopt. It's that simple. The idea that there are people who have ulterior motives in adopting children only sullies the beauty of the act. How many people do you know who can weigh their "bad" motives against rearing a child into adulthood -- and beyond. They bear the cost (in the $222,000 range for a non-special needs child according to USDA figures) as well the as the responsibility. Not to mention, they all need to pass their home visits.
Adopting a child with special needs is truly no different. More work? Probably. But the motives are the same: to welcome a child into your home to love and to cherish, to raise into adulthood and beyond. Once they are in your home, it's no different from raising a child with special needs who you gave birth to; you're the parent.
Because of their special circumstances, these kids need people who are prepared for the situation in ways that other kids might not. They need people who are well educated and prepared for the future. They don't need people looking to for the cheapest adoption option. Do you find this insulting?
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