Adopt a Special Needs Child & Make Money!

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special needsWelcome to the most disturbing thing you will read all day. A parenting blog is promoting special needs adoption because it can save you money! Maybe even make you money!

In a bizarre send-up for adoption that casts kids as commodities, EzineMark advises, "Special needs adoption will not only be less expensive, but you may even get incentives from the government to take care of the child. These incentives are in the form of social security income, subsidies, and tax deduction as well." So, I've been getting it wrong all this time. When I imagine a family bring home a child the first thing, I've been imagining smiling faces and a giant Cupid shooting little love arrows into Mom and Dad's butts. I should be thinking about the dollar, dollar bills!

At the heart of it, the description is accurate. Children with special needs are considered "harder to place" by the adoption community, and part of the reason is the immense financial burden their care can put on a family's shoulders. Parents who adopt a child with special needs are often eligible for a federal tax credit as well as monies paid to them by the government to help cover expenses.

But there's nothing in this article to convey the true reason for adoption -- a man or woman or both want to become parents. So they adopt. It's that simple. The idea that there are people who have ulterior motives in adopting children only sullies the beauty of the act. How many people do you know who can weigh their "bad" motives against rearing a child into adulthood -- and beyond. They bear the cost (in the $222,000 range for a non-special needs child according to USDA figures) as well the as the responsibility. Not to mention, they all need to pass their home visits.

Adopting a child with special needs is truly no different. More work? Probably. But the motives are the same: to welcome a child into your home to love and to cherish, to raise into adulthood and beyond. Once they are in your home, it's no different from raising a child with special needs who you gave birth to; you're the parent.

Because of their special circumstances, these kids need people who are prepared for the situation in ways that other kids might not. They need people who are well educated and prepared for the future. They don't need people looking to for the cheapest adoption option. Do you find this insulting?

 

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lovin... lovinangels

People can have Cupid's arrows in their asses and still get a special needs child. This piece could have been done so much better- it COULD serve to let people know that there is support available for their wonderful child... instead, it looks at children as a way to make money.


There are two kinds of foster parents...ones that do it for money, and ones that do it for love. The ones that do it for money are horrible places for kids. IMO, it's beyond insulting. If you read some of the pieces on here, some of the incredible mommas that display so much courage each day and do their damndest to make sure their special needs kid has a fighting chance in the grown up world... and loving them each and every minute...well, it's beyond insulting. It's...immoral. Children are NOT a business venture.

ksbon... ksbondgirl

I once knew of a woman who did this.  She had 6 special needs kids.  She kept the lights low, the TV on and the kids medicated 24 hours a day.  She even put some of their pajamas on backwards so that when the deficated on themselves, they could not free themselves of the mess.


This is not to say that there aren't wannabe parents out their who have purely good motives but people who want to adopt in this manner really need to be screened better!

ZsMommy ZsMommy

Extremely insulting,since I myself am a mother of a special needs child who is not receiving (by choice)  and does not need SSI (don't get me started on SSI because I feel there are parents who abuse it-"Just because" we have a special needs child does mot mean we need SSI and choose to leave it for those who do) for their child,despite being "special needs".


Wow-it's like people only take in Foster kids to just put some extra $ in their pockets-I've known some people like that too.


For those who truly want to adopt a special needs child because of pure love n concern-I applaud them-but for anyone just trying to make some extra $-that's disgusting.

tiger123 tiger123

You are so right, Zsmommy.  We can't get SSI for our older son because we aren't at the poverty level yet.(But in this economy, I predict it will be soon.)  This is really upsetting for us moms who are trying to do the right thing and provide all the best things for our children that we can afford( that the government is NOT helping us with.)  It just irks me that some abuse the system like this- and a lot of those that really really need it and are trying to do their best don't get all the help they need.  And for those kids who are strictly on medicaid, it doesn't cover everything.    I hope they start doing a better screening for this-I feel for kids that are in this situation.

Ladyw... Ladywithtwo

That is horrible!  I hope people don't take this seriously and take in a Special needs child for the cash!  A woman I am friends with has adopted 4 Special needs children and she works so hard to give them a wonderful life.  They are involved in our church, she has started groups to reach out to other families with similar children and their lives revolve around these sweet kids.  They are wonderful children but I also know they are a lot of work for her.  The though of people doing this for money and not putting in the work and love needed is disgusting.

thedg... thedgoddess

Horrible. ANd I wish it wasn't true but sadly, it is. And, it happens in many other countries, too. And as a mother od  special needs children, it isn't fair to the kid. This is a life-long dedication. This isn't a good way to make money.

nonmember avatar Anon

I don't understand what the problem is. Adopting a special needs child is a labor of love, but many are afraid to do it, partly because they don't know if they'll have enough money to meet all the child's needs. This is especially the case with international adoptions, where you really don't know how severe their issues are. What's wrong with pointing out to prospective adoptive parents that they should look into what financial assistance is available? Isn't that better than leaving special needs children to be forgotten and neglected in impoverished orphanages?

The incentives that are available are never enough to make anyone rich, especially when you consider that one parent may have to quit working to take care of the child(ren). The very rare cases of people adopting/fostering and then neglecting kids could be prevented by more responsible home studies and monitoring.

Eliza... Elizabeth4980

I read the "article" or "blog" as you call it.  Obviously this is the work of a foreign amateur copywriter who probably has no idea what they are talking about.  I have done some work for Amazon Mechanical Turk and what alot of companies do is pay nobodies 25 cents to a dollar or two to write "articles" about different stuff so they can get hits and sell ads for their "blogs" or "articles".  I wrote some articles about rice wholesaling and about shoes, two topics which I know NOTHING about and got paid.  You just do some google searches and slap some stuff together and bang, you got an article and you got two bucks.  ALOT of people overseas do this sort of stuff, patching together articles from searches they did online, not knowing anything about the topic.  If you read the article carefully, it is clearly not a native english speaker who is writing the article, and probably not even a parent or knowing what the heck they are writing about.  I mean, look at the way it starts.


The article starts out with no introductory sentence and the phrasing is really weird.  Usually the mark of a non-native english speaker.  They don't catch the awkwardness.  So anyways, yeah, it's a weird article, but I think it has more to do with Ezinemark being a bogus article site and less to do with any notions the author may hold about special needs adoption.

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