Forget the Stork! How to Tell His Parents You're Pregnant

Jeanne Sager
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pregnancy testThere comes a time in every pregnant woman's life when she finally has to come out of her happy bubble and tell the rest of the world. A little preparation is in order -- you could be facing ear-piercing happy squeals or a whole lot of nothing.

His parents are going to see their lives change too, so let's make it a big moment:

Do:

Let him lead the way on this one. He knows them better than you. And this is his big chance to play up his role in all of this. You'll be getting a lot of attention for the next nine months, but he won't have that belly. 

Ask them questions. It can be tough, especially with mothers-in-law, but this could be a major bonding moment for you two. She can let you in on secrets about her pregnancy with your man, and pull out his baby photos so you can see what your baby might look like.

Set your own terms beforehand with your significant other. If you aren't close to your in-laws, this is the time to let your guy know what is OK and what isn't. You don't need to walk in there and have him invite his mom into the delivery room.

Bring a sonogram picture or other ways to involve them. Keeping her out of the delivery room is possible, but give the lady something to wet her whistle. She's not your mom, but she is the new grandma-to-be.

Don't:

Let them know if they're second to find out. You are pregnant, so it's natural if you told your parents first. But this is their grandchild, and they aren't thinking that way. Just keep it under wraps to spare hurt feelings.

Get upset if they're not excited. Being a grandparent is a big change -- it can be scary. Give them time to adjust. If they don't, that's their loss.

Be too impersonal. They might just be your in-laws, but they're the grandparents of this baby. The relationship they will have with the child should be separate from the one you have. If you freeze them out now, who knows what it will be like for your kid.

 

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