Woman Forced Into Abortion Clinic at Gunpoint

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Dominic L. Holt ReidLast week in Ohio, a 28-year-old man became so enraged that his girlfriend wouldn't follow through with an abortion that he allegedly kidnapped her at gunpoint, made her drive to the clinic, and tried to force her to have one.

Fortunately, the woman was able to pass a note to one of the employees to let her know what was happening, and police were called. Dominic L. Holt Reid is being held on $500,000 bond.

The case is outrageous and horrifying to think any man could try and force a woman to terminate a pregnancy against her will, but it also brings up a long-debated question: When it comes to pro-choice, where is a man's choice?

Many women seek abortions because they're terrified, their life circumstances aren't right for a baby, they don't think they will be good parents, don't have the means to support a baby, and for a host of other reasons as diverse as the women themselves.

But don't the men face these same issues?

Both parties have the ability to prevent a pregnancy, so when they don't, why does only one party get a choice?

While it's a woman's body first and foremost, if a baby is born, it's both of theirs. BOTH parents have a responsibility financially and morally to support him or her, but only one parent gets to decide if they will?

While Reid's actions are unforgivable, isn't his desperation and fear about having a baby perhaps akin in some way to women who were forced into back alley abortions because they had no other choice?

Also, what about all the men who do want children and their girlfriends or wives or flings never tell them that they're pregnant? Those who have an abortion without ever telling the man who impregnated them?

No, a man doesn't have to endure pregnancy, and it's not his body that goes through the nine months of perils and physical changes and complications of pregnancy, but he does have a responsibility for the rest of that child's life.

Shouldn't he have some say, somehow, some way? Or does pro-choice really mean no choice for men?

Do you think men should have a say when it comes to abortion?


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CafeS... CafeSasha

I am absolutely, 100% supportive of a man's right to choose. Stories like these make me sad. I can't imagine the desperation a man must feel when he has no option. I bet it was a bit like the way women felt before Roe v Wade.

LoriA... LoriAnn87

A man should have a right in choosing what happens to the baby because it's his baby too.

CoolR... CoolRelax

Sorry, biology just doesn't give everything to everybody.  I would loooove to have the choice to have the man carry the baby, but alas...not gonna happen.  And considering that most children born to single parents are cared for primarily by the mom, I'm not too sympathetic.  Do we really think that the man who would force a woman into a clinic at gunpoint is doing so because he's too moral to think of abandoing his child?  please.  This man is a nutjob.  A man's choice and power to carry it through end when the egg is fertilized.  Wrap it up, genius.  Or better yet, consider the very real possibility that ANY woman you have sex with could potentially be the mother of your child and make some better decisions.


This is a part of pregnancy that is not acknowledged - many men have beaten women or gotten female friends/family to beat women *in the stomach* in an effort to keep her from having a baby that she wants to have.  It's sickening.

blue_... blue_glass_mama

GIVE ME A BREAK---A Man can prevent pregnancy too ya know--- he can wear a condom, he can pull out( know not very good protection but I used it with me for many years and never got pregnant) and of course the 100% way of not becoming a father----KEEP IT IN THEIR PANTS---THAT WORKS 100% OF THE TIME----YA PLAY YA PAY! And another thing the article says--"No, a man doesn't have to endure pregnancy, and it's not his body that goes through the nine months of perils and physical changes and complications of pregnancy, but he does have a responsibility for the rest of that child's life." This is not all true while they should have half the responsibility after the child is born, myself with many thousands of other mothers of children with deadbeat dads know that, that one is not true!!! And I do not want to hear about I should have chosen better men, or the courts will make him pay, because he wanted the kid before it was born, and no the court set the child support at zero. So if men do not want the responsibility then, they should take steps to prevent it, too

Kimberly Virga

I totally agree with CoolRelax. Men donate sperm. Women carry the baby, nurture the baby, GROW the baby, give birth to the baby, and all too often, end up as the primary caregiver to the baby. I am very sorry, but I just don't see why a man has similar rights to that child when it comes to abortion. I don't. And yes, it takes two to get pregnant, blah blah blah... but ultimately, it is that women who has to make the decision- it is HER body. I feel this way; if God wanted men to have babies and physically go through that, he would have. He didn't. Case closed.

nonmember avatar Allboys

Men have the right to wear a condom to prevent pregnancy. Then they have the right to pursue parental rights after their child is born. That is it. We have seen time and time again in history the atrocities men will commit when they have the rights to dictate what a woman does with her own body.

paren... parentalrights1

Too bad for men. They can keep in their pants instead of saying, "Oh I'm a man and I will be such a stud for having sex."


He COULD always refuse to sign the birth certificate. I don't know if she could have him forced to take a paternity test in order to get child support, but that's a whole other legal issue that should not influence the fact that a man doesn't get a choice in abortion.


Any "woman" who thinks that a man should get a choice is a lunatic for basically saying that a woman could want her baby, but be forced to lay down and traumatically have her loved child be torn away. Sick people in this world I tell ya. Disgusting.

Kris Gamble

The whole point of pro choice is that women have control over their bodies. Men should not have control over womens bodies, that sounds like a step backwards, from a pro choice standpoint.

Bluel... Blueliner

It should be the woman's choice but if the man doesn't want the child then he should have to waive all rights as a parent to the child and the woman all rights to his $$$.

ethan... ethans_momma06

I think that there needs to be a reevaluation in fathers rights. Rare is the woman who has an abortion because of what pregnancy does to her body (take a look at your own article, you didn't list it in your common reasons for abortion) so I don't really see abortion as a 'her body, her choice' issue. If it IS going to be legal, then for equalities sake, men need to be afforded the same 'out' we are giving women.

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