
I had a c-section. And I wish I could say that I had an all-natural vaginal birth of my twins. But I got extremely sick during labor, my blood pressure was dangerously high, and my vision became altered. I was diagnosed with preeclampsia with HELLP syndrome after having contractions for four hours at the hospital. What was supposed to be the happiest day of my life suddenly became life or death.
I can tell you that there is nothing convenient about a c-section.
Of course, I was sick -- so the inconvenience was heightened by this fact. The drugs to stabilize me. The drugs to keep me from having a seizure. The drugs to keep me from having a stroke. It pains me to know what these drugs were going to my twins. My heart just stopped thinking about it. What a scary experience it must have been for them as well.
But scheduling a c-section out of convenience is like thinking that making a Thanksgiving dinner is easy -- maybe it is if you know how to baste a turkey, but don't forget all the time that goes into cleanup. The difference is that with a c-section, you can't have someone else do the dishes.
And that's exactly it: You can schedule a c-section so you know exactly when you are going in the hospital -- it's tidy, it's a solid in the date book -- but the recovery time is much longer, the scar is forever, and the numbness may be, too.
There are many reasons a woman must have a cesarean birth -- my reason is just one of them. And if you choose to have your baby via c-section, then that's your choice as well. But don't fool yourself into thinking it's convenient. Many c-sections go smoothly, but there are additional risks as there are any time a person has to go through major surgery. It's not a little slit and the baby pops out. Here is an example of a c-section procedure (not all are exactly the same).
- The epidural is a shot given at the base of the spine. It numbs you from the waist down. Dead weight numb.
- A catheter is inserted into your bladder. I had to have mine prior to being numb because of my emergency situation. My parents walked in when the doctor was inserting it. It was horrifying and felt like a straw was going around my clitoris.
- Your arms are tied down Jesus Christ style. A sheet goes up once you are lying down on the operating table. You cannot see what's happening on the other side of the curtain. You cannot wipe your own tears (of fear or happiness) from your eyes.
- A low transverse (horizontal) incision is made because it has a lower incidence of blood loss and infection. The doctor cuts through the tissues that lie above the uterus. Tissues and your abdominal muscles will be pulled apart, and then your uterus is cut open. Seven layers in all. Your skin is stretched to make a clear opening for baby to come out.
- Your baby's amniotic fluid is suctioned away and the baby is pulled out. Sometimes forceps or a vacuum extractor is used to help baby out.
- You will hear your baby cry, but you cannot see her yet. My daughter was delivered first. She cried immediately and when she was finally brought to my side of the curtain, I couldn't touch her. My husband rubbed her cheek against my cheek. They were working on getting my son out, who didn't cry. I was panicked. But he was fine, and I got to feel his little face on my cheek, too.
- You will be alone. The babies went back with the doctors and my husband left the room to tell our family that we were all okay. I was alone, with the doctors who were removing my placenta and then stitching me up. It felt like an eternity.
- You may shiver uncontrollably. When I was moved to the recovery room, I began shivering. I still couldn't feel anything below my belly button and I was having convulsions. It's a side effect of the epidural. Everything hurt and I felt itchy at my feet even though I couldn't feel them. I kept asking my nurse to scratch my feet. She was but I didn't feel it.
When I was admitted to a room with another new mom as my roommate, I remember being envious. She delivered an hour after I did, but she was able to walk around because she had a vaginal birth. She didn't have to deal with her body regaining feeling again and she didn't have to worry about the stitches in her abdomen. It took me two weeks to be able to go number two without it hurting my incision area. Two weeks that I couldn't cough without extreme pain. I continue to have pain in the area when I have gas nine months later because those nerves take a long, long time to heal.
There are also c-section complications. Infection in the uterine tissues occur in almost 40 percent of women. Postpartum endometritis is 20 times more likely with a cesarean. There is up to a 15 percent chance that your incision can get infected. And urinary tract infections are common because of the catheter. The risk of blood clotting is five times greater for women who have a c-section than those who deliver vaginally.
There are complications from a c-section that extend to any future births including preterm or breech baby, low birth weight, and a ruptured uterus. The more c-sections you have, the more you put yourself at risk for placenta previa or placenta accreta. C-section babies have a great risk of neonatal respiratory distress in the first few days of life because when a baby is born vaginally, the lungs receive pressure during the birth and excess fluid is naturally pushed out. They also are affected by the drugs the mom must take and can be lethargic and not always up for breastfeeding. They often score low on the Apgar scale as a result. Though rare, the fetus can also be cut during the incision.
I want to make it clear: I love my c-section babies. It was the route they had to take to come into this world. I won't even judge a woman who chooses to have a c-section because she is scared to have anything come out of her vagina (we all have our hang-ups), but even that woman should understand all that comes with choosing a c-section. It was a lot of things to me, but it was not convenient.
Do you feel a c-section can be convenient?
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Comments (29)
Amen!
I agree. I ended up having to have an emergency C-section after a ridiculously long labor.
It's only been 6 weeks but the recovery has been a struggle. Convenient? Absolutely not.
Thank you for posting this. I appreciate your frankness, and pointing to the facts. It was heart-wrenching to read though! I am so sorry mama!
Other than your reasons for getting there, our situations had a lot in common! My birth canal is almost closed in the center, making vaginal delivieries completely out of the question. I threw up on the anesthesiologist from the epidural. My husband did stay with my with our third, because I hated the alone feeling while being stitched. I tore my stitches postpartum from overwork-I have three kids, can't help it. I had an infection at my incision site and was allergic to the antibiotic so I got a rash, before they figured out one I could take that was safe for breastfeeding. I had horrible side effects from the pain killers-the main being severe water retention which made walking painful, so I just toughed it out during recovery with only Tylenol. These were complications with my third-I have blocked out the other two c-sections! I was advised by my OB/GYN to not have more kids because of the risk of uterine rupture with the damage from my stitches tearing. It pains me to see when women who could delivery naturally, choose an unnecessary c-section for convenience when they have no idea how difficult it is. Thanks for the article Michele! Hug your c-secetion babies!
This made me tear up. I'm so sorry you had to go through this.
I will never understand women who choose this for themselves.
Christie, me too with the tearing up. ((hugs)) Michele.
Actually c-sections are "convenient" for some women. My second child was a Frank Breech, so there was no option but a c-section to deliver him. It was scheduled 5 days before my actual due date, which felt really weird, having it on the calendar --- but my water broke 3 days before that. We had no complications, we were discharged less than 48 hours after he was delivered, I didn't need anything stronger than Motrin, and I was hauling laundry around within a couple days of coming home. And I don't have a visible scar - my surgeon was very good. In all honesty, it was a breeze. I have a couple of friends who also had c-sects for varying reasons, some purely elective for their second children because the emergency c/s with the first child was not a bad experience.
My heart goes out to women who have bad birth experiences, whether they be natural or c/s - but don't make the sweeping assumption that a c-section is always horrific. My hands were never tied down - I've never heard of that, and I think it's barbaric - so it's not fact, and you may want to change your wording to indicate that it might happen. I held my son, with the help of my husband, while the docs finished up 'down there'.
hoticedcoffee -- a c-section for a frank breech is a medical necessity, not one out of convenience. You know that.
Not everything is as awful as this mom's experience was. And yes, I'm considering a second c/s because of the convenience (my first was for failure to progress after 48 hours of labor). My husband is in the military; we're stationed in Virginia and our families live in Oregon. Scheduling childcare for our son, flights and time off work will be much easier with planned c/s.
I didn't have my arms tied down, I could have requested to have the sheet lowered (my husband was allowed to take pictures so I still got to see the birth), my mom stayed in the OR with me while my husband took our baby to the nursery. Yes, I wasn't able to hold our baby right away, but we started breastfeeding without a problem. I was given meds to stop the itching. The extra monitoring I had was frustrating, but the extra 3 days in the hospital was absolutely wonderful. (We had a private room, my husband and baby were able to stay with me. Having room-service food, someone doing laundry for us and the extra help of the nurses was fantastic.)
I was up and walking around my room hours after the c/s. I ran a 5k 5 weeks postpartum. Although I needed extra help getting in and out of bed at home, I don't think my recovery time was anything worse than most vaginal births. My scar is barely noticeable.
Yes, a c/s is major surgery. And yes, with any type of birth, things can go wrong. Maybe I lucked out, but I just don't think that all c/s are doom and gloom.
I did say they aren't all the same and I did note this is part of my story. No matter the reason why you get a c-section though, I personally do not believe it is convenient ... even if everything went smoothly and you had no complications.
And believe me, I praise modern medicine. It saved me and my twins.