Who You Gonna Call?

Pregnancy 8

emergency labor and delivery call listWe've always lived far away from relatives and close friends, and sometimes, particularly if you've got one heckuva challenging mother-in-law, it's not such a bad thing.

But if you've got a cool set of parents or some great friends who just so happen to have kids your age, it really sucks.

I'm quite envious of all my friends and even some family that have loved ones close by, mostly because they're often afforded free respite and much needed breaks, sometimes even overnight ones (sounds heavenly!), that we've never had the good fortune to enjoy. But when I'm due with a baby, my fourth one here in a couple of weeks, I really wish we had family and closer friends nearby.

I realize that this isn't particular to just sometimes single moms, but to any mom who lives far away from her friends and relatives. It's quite commonplace now, regardless of whether your husband travels or not, so this is something that I know many of us can relate to.

With Margot, we had a couple of neighbors who were "on call" and willing to come over and sit with our kids so my husband could accompany me to the hospital. As it turned out, my water broke in the middle of the night like my other two pregnancies, but I didn't really have contractions, so when 11 a.m. rolled around and we headed off to the hospital, we were able to call our regular babysitter to assist us and didn't have to make the 2 a.m. phone call.

However, that meant that my husband had to head home pretty soon after Margot was born to be with the other kids.

This time around we'll be doing the same thing, though with all the rampant sleep issues plaguing our home, I'm afraid at the thought of what my poor neighbor will have to endure. It certainly won't be an easy sleep on the couch and wait for word from us. Then again, I'm pretty sure I'll be occupied with other things to be thinking about while I'm pushing a baby out.

We've also asked our regular sitter if she would be willing to be "on call" as well, because she might actually fare a bit better with my kids than the neighbors, whom my children know well but haven't spent as much time, particularly doing their daily rituals, with. However, we've yet to figure out how exactly I'll get myself to the hospital if my husband happens to be gone. Our friends are all two-parent households, but if someone has to drive me and someone has to stay with my kids, then they'll have no one to tend to their own children.

Like everything else, it seems as though it's much easier to overthink and over-plan everything. And sometimes, it can make you more worried than you actually need to be.


Photo from Flickr/cod_gabriel

3rd trimester, labor & delivery, labor, delivery


To add a comment, please log in with

Use Your CafeMom Profile

Join CafeMom or Log in to your CafeMom account. CafeMom members can keep track of their comments.

Join CafeMom or Log in to your CafeMom account. CafeMom members can keep track of their comments.

Comment As a Guest

Guest comments are moderated and will not appear immediately.


We only have one child so we have it a bit easier. I can imagine it would be really hard to not have family to help out wit multiple kids.

betha... bethany169

My husband and I are trying to figure this out as well, for the birth of our second child in April.  His brother and his wife live about an hour away from us, but they both work and have two kids of their own so they can't just be on call for us and since DH is home with DS during the day, the only other babysitter we use is a high school girl across the street.  My mom is willing to fly here but she is a seasonal employee for H&R Block and I'm due 3 days before tax season ends so it would mean a huge dent in her income to be here.  At least we've got some time to figure it out :)

nonmember avatar Allboys

When we welcomed our fourth into the family my husband was deployed. So my MIL came and stayed at the house. Now I wish I had simply had a home birth and told her to stay at a hotel. It would have been less stress.

Phils... PhilsBabyMama

I will probably be living far away from friends and family the next time I give birth, as my husband is in the military.  I will have a home birth though, and hopefully my mom will be able to come and stay with us (like she did when I had my first and was living in Alaska and all our family was back in Maryland) to help out with the kiddo. 

nonmember avatar Gertie

Well, I guess you could always call a cab.

nonmember avatar Liz

I'm starting to think about this one, myself. Thankfully, my husband works a pretty standard day job and really doesn't travel. But even still, we have a pair of 3-year-olds and no local family. Hopefully I'll make it to my scheduled repeat c-section, my mom (or in-laws, but hopefully my mom) will be able to fly here for a week, and it will be easy peasy. But if I go early, man, that gets interesting. One of the few people I'd put on my list to call is also pregnant and also has a pair of 3-year-olds, so it's not like she can come over that easily, either!

nonmember avatar lol


sstepph sstepph

Wow I only have 1 child so I dont know ho wit will be the next time

1-8 of 8 comments