Could Your Pregnancy Ruin Your Marriage?


Matt Damon's wife Luciana Barroso is pregnant for the fourth time and she has had it.

"She's been pregnant basically for more than half of the last five years and she's been nursing the other half so I've definitely asked about as much as I can from my wife," the star actor told

I know her pain. I also had multiple children in rapid succession (although only two) and there does come a point where enough is enough. It's common knowledge that our hormones go crazy during pregnancy, but is it possible that we could go too far? Is it possible we may ask too much of our spouses while we "suffer" through pregnancy?

I didn't enjoy pregnancy and I make no secret of that. Even still, it's unbelievably awesome that our bodies can do it. Throughout my pregnancy, my own husband told me how envious he was of it, and despite the weight gain and nausea and hormones, I could see why.

Barroso is lucky to have a husband as understanding as Damon. Many men don't necessarily understand all of the changes and get frustrated with their wife's mood swings and demands.

I can't say I blame them.

There seems to be this expectation when we're pregnant that we should be able to do and say and act however we want. It's understandable if you expect a few more foot rubs and more understanding than usual, but it's also possible to do real damage to your marriage if you go too far.

The pregnant woman who expects her husband to wait on her hand and foot just because she's pregnant is doing herself a disservice. After all, active pregnancies are healthier pregnancies. But it also contributes to this global sense that a pregnant woman is a delicate flower who mustn't be disturbed. It's a bit like the boy who cried wolf.

Obviously, some pregnancies are worse than others and anyone who has suffered through nine months of constant nausea or bed rest probably has another story to tell, but in a typical, healthy pregnancy, there is no reason a woman can't get up and make her own cheese sandwich or move a small box or take the subway without complaining.

Ask too much of your partner and it could lead to resentment, which could lead to other problems.

Do you expect a lot from your husband during pregnancy?


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Sweet... SweetPieMama24

I don't ask my hubby of much during this pregnancy (or for the last one). Our kids will be 11 months apart, so it's like I've been pregnant 2 years in a row pretty much. This time it's a lot more tiring since I have a very active 8 month old to watch after. All I ask of my hubby is to keep the baby preoccupied so I can accomplish cooking, laundry, cleaning - whatever it is that needs to get done. It's a lot harder when they don't help out (I actually had to TELL him to help otherwise he wasn't gonna ask!!)

Erin1108 Erin1108

Well, I don't expect anything of my husband, but he gives it. With my first pregnancy, I cut back on some things, as DH wanted to help me, ended in miscarriage. Second pregnancy, I was on light duty (per DH), ended in miscarriage. Third pregnancy, I was on light duty (per doctor), and wasn't allowed off couch except to go to the bathroom and work, ended in miscarriage. DH said with next pregnancy, I won't be allowed to get off couch or go to work, he even made a comment about bedpans or something. I know part of it is that he is terrified of losing another baby, but he's also terrified of losing me. Since the miscarriages have been diagnosed, and I will more than likely be on bedrest for any pregnancy from here on out, it terrifies him that something could go wrong. I know that mine aren't typical pregnancies, but to answer your question, I don't expect it. He just does it. And I love him and appreciate him for how well he treats me (amongst other things).

nonmember avatar Rachel Rants

I was quite emotional during both my pregnancies. I would actually warn my husband some mornings that it was going to be a bitch day and that he should know that he would be wrong all day. It made things a lot easier. And I did everything I normally did, even with the second. I found that my husband responded better when he did my chores without being asked. We had things pretty well divided anyway. I´m lucky though, he´s very observant and could tell when I needed or should have a little more rest.

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