Daddies in the Delivery Room: Do or Don't?

Sasha Brown-Worsham
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How much did your husband factor into your birth plan?

Mario Lopez almost missed the birth of his daughter this weekend because he didn't believe she was in labor. Would it have really mattered if he had?

A French OB made headlines last year when he suggested that the role of the father during labor and delivery was best described by one word: superfluous.

Dr. Michel Odent blames the uptick in C-section births on nervous fathers in the delivery room who make their wives nervous who in turn are unable to progress and head into C-section.

"Having been involved for more than 50 years in childbirths in homes and hospitals in France, England, and Africa, the best environment I know for an easy birth is when there is nobody around the woman in labour apart from a silent, low-profile, and experienced midwife," he told the BBC.

Silent midwife, eh?

My spouse was integral to both of my births, which were vaginal, natural, and drug-free. He sat with me and held my hands while I was in the bath. He applied counter-pressure to my back. He advocated for me when the doctor tried to bust into our birthing suite against the wishes of my midwife, and he made sure I had water and was fully taken care of throughout.

In short, I cannot imagine not having him.

I cannot imagine only having my midwife. She was wonderful and supportive, but I was so out of it and delirious, I needed a person to speak for me. My husband was my doula.

That seems like the ideal scenario, but for many, hiring a doula may be superior. Perhaps what Dr. Odent suggests is true for some, but not for all. Maybe some men can't be in the delivery room, but I cannot imagine having gone through it without my husband by my side.

And neither, apparently, could Courtney Mazza (Lopez's girlfriend). Lopez made it in time to see the birth and be there when his daughter came into the world.

Let's be real: what guy would want to miss that?

 

 

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