Why Alicia Keys & Celebrity Moms Just Don't Get It

Alicia Keys, pregnant with her first child, had this to say about pregnancy the other day:

"To be a mother to a child is the most brilliant gift, it’s gorgeous.”

As a mother of two who are 18 months apart, I will say that I'm grateful every day for my children. They're beautiful and I will never regret bringing them into our lives. That said, I think Keys may be in for a rude awakening.

I am someone who believes in telling the truth, even when it's ugly, and I also think that motherhood -- for all its weight and merit -- is a slog-fest like any other relationship. Sometimes I think pregnant women, especially pregnant celebrities, really don't get it.

I can remember Britney Spears saying some nonsense about never having experienced the most "magical" of all life events (motherhood) back when she was 22 and before she fed her toddler sons Cheetos for breakfast.


The thing is, motherhood is hard. Really, really hard. Does a "gift" have a diaper blowout every few hours, spraying poop all over? Does a "gift" throw a fit because you give it a blue bowl instead of an orange one? Does a "gift" kick and scream so much during a diaper change that it makes it impossible to fasten the straps?

Let's just say, if it did, you would probably return it.

A child isn't a "gift." He or she is a person, a real person whom parents have to care for day in and day out. I'm all for a starry-eyed, happy pregnancy, but I also think those preggos who get googly and cheesy and listen to schmaltzy motherhood music are in for a rude awakening when the baby comes.

Motherhood is great and worthy and probably the most important job I will ever do. But it isn't a "gift."

I say it's more like a job. A job done with love and warmth, but a job nonetheless. One that takes 24/7 availability and pays only in cuddles and kisses. I wouldn't trade it for anything else, but I also don't think it's the same as a spa trip or a new piece of jewelry or a gift certificate to Anthropologie.

Is motherhood a "gift" or do you have another word for it?


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