Shotgun Weddings: Does Anyone Even Care Anymore?

Sasha Brown-Worsham
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Shotgun bride
Billy Idol
famously sang about shotgun weddings in "White Wedding" -- weddings in which the bride is pregnant -- and it seems every celebrity and their mom is having one (hi, Bethenny!), but are "shotgun weddings" really as common as they seem?

A 2007 survey from MaternityBride.com found that one in every six brides is pregnant. And this includes many celebrities like: Gwyneth Paltrow, Ashlee Simpson-Wentz, Amanda Peet, Jessica Alba. All were knocked up when they walked down the aisle.

Personally, I like the "first comes love" order of things.

My husband and I were married three-and-a-half years before our daughter came along and together two years before that (and friends for 15 years before that, but that is another story). Believe me, we needed that time to really get to know one another and learn who we were as a couple before we added a big belly to the mix.

On the other hand, we were very young when we started dating (23) and I've known many couples who saw no reason to get married, lived together for years, and then decided to walk down the aisle only after the EPT test had two lines. I'm not sure "marriage" would have made their relationship any stronger.

To me, the important part seems to be the length of time two people know each other before committing to a baby. Because a baby is a much larger commitment than a walk down the aisle could ever be.

Personally, if I were pregnant, I would have the baby first and then get married, but mostly because I wouldn't want a maternity wedding gown.

By the way, the couple in Billy Idol's "White Wedding" was his little sister and her husband. They enjoyed a long happy marriage, while Idol's own non-shotgun marriage ended not long after the song was released. Or at least that's what I learned on VH1's Pop Up Video.

What about the rest of you? Were you pregnant when you got married?


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