Mira Sorvino Believes Kids Suffer With Sitters


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Oscar winner Mira Sorvino and mommy to three young kids (Mattea, 5 1/2, Johnny, 3 1/2, and newest addition, Holden, 10 months) may be a celebrity, but she doesn't have a nanny per child -- she doesn't even have one.

She told PARADE magazine: "You see your kids suffer when you leave them with someone else." This outrageous statement means the star sometimes has to choose between career and motherhood because she thinks you can't have it all -- something has to suffer.

Sorvino reportedly turned down several roles so she could be at home with her babies. "I don't want my kids raised by nannies" is her reasoning -- and I'm not saying it's a bad thing for moms to stay at home with the kiddos -- I'm just saying generalizing women who work and leave their kids with nannies or at day-care with words like "suffer" is a little much for me.

Pregnancy affords moms-to-be and their partners nine joyous months to think about childcare options for when junior makes his grand entrance into the world. Sorvino undoubtedly can afford to stay home with her kids, but I for example need to work, so my 2 1/2-year-old son attends a full-time pre-K program three days a week for a pretty penny.

I never feel like his teachers are "raising him" in the six to eight hours he spends at school -- or that he's enduring any kind of pain. He's doing art, singing the ABC's, learning sign language and Spanish, socializing with kids his age, playing outside, singing, dancing. According to his last activity sheet: "JD loved painting with a feather" -- yep, the feather art is on the fridge.

I'm also trying to figure out what Sorvino is saying about women in general. Are we destined to be barefoot and pregnant -- raise the babies while our big, strong man works hard? Cringe.

Pregnant moms, have you thought about childcare for your yet-to-be-born baby?

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ethan... ethans_momma06

Studies have shown (although pregnancy brain isn't letting me remember where to find them) that it is ideal for mothers to stay with their children throughout the first year of life. It isn't because of some male desire to shackle women to the house, just like BFing isn't.

Of course, there are times where the 'ideal' is not 'ideal' like with women returning to work. Sometimes it really is a necessity for a mom to return to work, where she must leave her infant. Does her child 'suffer'? I dunno... thats a pretty general statement. But to act as if there is NO impact is bull too. After all, it is really only this 'modern' society where women are required to leave their infant to go to work and I hardly think the subject has been researched enough.

I went back to work when my DS was 6 months. I HAD to. I went back to work when he was 15 months again because I had to (and this time I wanted to). And yes, I think that there was some suffering on my childs part because of that. Do I think EVERY child will suffer? Nope.

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This article starts out with a very condescending tone. Why are you picking apart her verbage? If you feel that your child is just fine away from you for a large part of your day, then what is your issue with her feeling that her children will suffer if not with her? Give her the respect and freedom to express her opinions, because after all, women are allowed to make choices that are best for them and their situation. 

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