Backlash Against 'Too Pretty Daily Mail' Writer Wouldn’t Happen to a Man

woman's hands typing on laptopDaily Mail writer Samantha Brick unleashed a firestorm the other day when she penned a piece raising a controversial question: Do women loathe beautiful women? Is that one of the "downsides to looking pretty"? Brick thinks so, and she said she's been a victim of this her whole life, because she says she's "tall, slim, blonde" and often told that she's "a good-looking woman." Before writing the piece, Brick realized that she was setting herself up for a strong reaction, but she could have never really imagined the real backlash.

In a matter of 24 hours, as she puts it, "people who don't know me have queued up to call me ugly, stupid, a b***." Her inbox is overflowing with "bile-filled messages ... from Swedish crime writers to bored housewives" asking her "what planet I'm on for daring to write such a feature." And that's just the beginning ...

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She's become the butt of countless nasty jokes and even violent tweets (one woman declared, "Samantha Brick should be bricked to death!"). Wow ... all this for daring express what some might describe as healthy (perhaps even slightly overzealous) self-esteem.

Sure, her original piece could be construed as overreaching. I personally take offense to the idea that every single woman around her hates on her because she's attractive ... or, more to the point, because she believes that she is and has the confidence to match. But there is obviously some truth to the fact that some women really can't stand those attributes in another woman. And she certainly called attention to that, didn't she?

But the even greater takeaway here is how society's reaction to a woman's healthy ego (no matter how delusional some might think she is about her looks, no one could argue that Brick's obviously very self-assured) can be simply vile. We can be so quick to tear women down and call them stupid b*tches if they dare display a smidge of confidence. And it's so screwed up. 

Like Brick wrote in her follow-up:

If Brad Pitt were to say: 'Yes, I'm a good-looking fella,' then the world would nod sagely in agreement. But if Angelina Jolie uttered something along those lines, she'd be subject to the same foaming-at-the-mouth onslaught hurled at me yesterday.

I'm sorry to say that this double standard is very true. On some levels, no matter how far we've come as a society, we still can't stand a woman who knows her worth. Okay, so maybe Brick came off as a bit arrogant. But so what? Who was she harming with her chutzpah? She loves what she sees when she looks in the mirror. Is that a crime deserving of malicious stone-throwing, trash-talking? Hell no. In the end, the bloodsport of pushing a woman off the pedestal she's content on says more about us than it does about her.

Do you agree we are more apt to tear women down when they display confidence? Should the people who bashed Brick be ashamed?


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