Man Assaults Wife & Judge Orders … a Date Night?

rosesJoesph Bray appeared in court yesterday on a domestic violence charge. Allegedly, during an argument with his wife, Bray shoved her down onto the couch, put his hands around her neck, and cocked his fist back like he was about to punch her (he didn't).

Know what the judge ordered him to do? Take his wife out on a date.


During the hearing, Judge Jay Hurley asked Bray's wife where she'd like to go for dinner and what she'd like to do afterward. Her answers were Red Lobster and bowling. Hurley said: "He’s going to stop by somewhere and he’s going to get some flowers, and then he’s going to go home, pick up his wife, get dressed, take her to Red Lobster. And then after they have Red Lobster, they’re going to go bowling." Also, he ordered the two to go to marriage counseling.

It's an odd punishment. A rare one. One that the Sun-Sentinel calls "whimsical conditions." Apparently, Bray's wife told the judge that she was neither hurt nor in fear, so because of that, and because of Bray's clean record, Judge Hurley felt that a date night was in order. Which, I agree, it was. But so was something else.

There's never any reason or excuse for a man to shove a woman, grab her by the neck, and pull back his fist. Even if no physical harm results, I'd imagine it's still frightening as hell (despite what his wife says), and clearly, the person who does such a thing needs help. Like, real help. Anger management help. Not just dusting-off-his-sport-coat-and-taking-the-wife-out help.

I hope Bray and his wife have a lovely time on their date and rekindle their romance as much as they possibly can. But if I were the wife, I wouldn't be totally shocked if such a terrible incident happened again.

Do you think this is an appropriate punishment for the crime?


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