Mom Is Right to Let 12-Year-Old Son Be Drag Queen

Typically, your average 12-year-old boy spends his time playing sports, watching movies, and playing video games. But in England, the 12-year-old boys like to put on their mom's clothing and dance to pop songs. Or, at least one does anyway.

It seems there is a village in England that has a drag queen contest every year, and this year, a 12-year-old British boy named Redvers Stokes got top honors. The boy won for his act he calls "Naughty Nora," which includes a wild costume and pop song medley. The boy may not be typical, but he is awfully proud of himself and, as a parent, I would be, too.

Good for this mom and dad for letting their son be who he is. The boy said:


I don't think there's anything wrong with it, I think it's really funny. And my friends think it's really cool. I've always been open to new things. I might like dressing up in women's clothes but I still like girls. It's just a little hobby of mine.

Thank you! This boy has said exactly what so many people seem to miss. Boys can still be boys and even be straight and also like to dress up, play around with gender roles, entertain, and make people laugh. This only makes them who they are. It doesn't mean anything else about them, their parents, or their future.

The problem is so few parents see it that way, especially with their boys. Girls are free now to explore sports, get dirty, wear overalls, or do anything once considered "masculine." No one would balk at a girl playing with a truck at the playground, but a boy with a dress carrying a doll? Forget it!

It's not right and it's not fair, so kudos to these parents for letting their son explore who he is and being open to the idea of his creativity and expression. He may end up a buttoned up Wall Street type who never wants to wear a dress again, but he may also become the costume designer for West End productions. Whatever he does, it will be what he wants. His parents aren't limiting him.

Interestingly enough, it seems the town also supports his endeavors. Could it be the mark of a world opening up to the idea that not all kids are the same? Maybe it is. And if it is, then I say it's a positive development, indeed.

In a world where children can follow their interests no matter where they (safely) lead them, we will have much happier -- and more creative -- people. So good on these parents for recognizing it and good on this boy for not being afraid to think outside the box.

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