Norway Camp Killer's Father Played Role in Shooting Spree

interview roomNo matter how badly your kid screws up, no matter how crazy you think they are, and no matter how many people they hurt, it's wrong for parents to publicly wish their children dead. Think it privately, share it in the confessional, tell your shrink, even your spouse -- but by God don't reveal such harsh and jarring sentiments like that with a reporter and not expect people to think you are just as unstable as your child is.

But that's exactly what Jens David Breivik, estranged father of accused Norwegian terror killer Anders Behring Breivik, said about his son for killing some 76 innocent people in Norway last week. Jens Breivik said he wished his son had committed suicide himself after the murders. What is wrong with this family picture?

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This is not what we need to hear right now, as much as many people, especially families of the victims, may also wish it true. This is a time for healing, not vengeance and self-centeredness and pride. This tragedy is not about him, but these comments make it so.

I can't imagine saying this about my child no matter what heinous act he or she did. I also couldn't imagine saying what the father said next as he continued to bury himself into a very deep hole when giving a two-hour interview to the Swedish tabloid, Espressen:

I am dragged into this whether I want to or not. I’m his father. I hope that people will understand that I have nothing to do with this.

We didn't before you opened your mouth, Mr. Breivik, but we do now. During the interview with his back to a photographer, the elder Breivik, who now lives in France with his wife (not his son's mother), said he was concerned that people looking for vengeance might try to kill him. So in other words, his main concern is not for his son, for all those hurt and murdered people, for Norway -- but for his own ass. He wished his son was dead. He wants people to know he didn't have any connection to the boy, who he has not talked to since 1995.

And it gets even worse.

The elder Breivik divorced Anders' mom 30 years ago when the boy had just reached toddlerhood. He admits he never had a relationship with the boy, and then seemed to fault him for that.

He was like most boys. We never really had a good father-son relationship. We were both pretty closed. He visited me once in a while when he was little.

He said he doesn't even "feel like his father.”

That's pretty obvious. And you don't think that might have been part of the problem, Mr. Breivik? "Pretty closed" sounds like another phrase for "repressed emotions" and "ticking timebomb" to me.

You can look at this one of two ways: On the one hand, Breivik was not around when his son grew up so he can take no responsibility for who the boy became, what kinds of twisted thoughts and philosophies developed in his mind, and can claim no part whatsoever in the terrible events of last week. That's what he would like the world to believe, anyway. That he is clean and his son is dirty and he wipes his hands of the whole thing.

Or, you can consider that if Breivik had been more of a father to his son and had actually been around during the boy's formative years, things might have been different. Maybe if he had talked to his son once in a while, helped guide him and teach him the value of human life and actually been any kind of role model, the junior Breivik might not have become the delusional monster he clearly became.

Of course things might have been worse, too. He sounds like he's a selfish, narcissistic human being if ever there was one, and would have made a terrible father anyway, so maybe it's also good he wasn't around, or the son might have ended up even crazier.

The most perplexing thing is that the senior Breivik felt this way and even agreed to an interview in the first place. He did such a great job at staying quiet and "closed" during his son's childhood and young adulthood that one has to wonder what made him decide to open up now.

Could you ever wish your own child dead, no matter how evil the act?

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