Parenting

MIL Gives Ultimatum to Weasel Her Way into the Delivery Room & It Blows Up in Her Face

ParentingPublished Dec 18, 2018
By Lauren Levy
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Who a mom-to-be allows into her delivery room is an incredibly personal decision that shouldn't be taken for granted. It doesn't matter who you are -- you don't have the right to be in a birthing mom's space with a front-row ticket to the action unless she specifically asks you to be there, and more importantly, you don't have the right to make mom feel bad about it if she didn't. Unfortunately, when it comes time for baby day, many family members -- especially moms and mothers-in-law -- seem to seriously struggle with this concept. That's why how one MIL reacted when she found out that she wasn't guaranteed a spot up close and personal during the birth of her grandchild is pretty low.

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The problems start when mom found out that she and her husband were expecting baby number two.

But to first understand, the anonymous woman explained on Reddit that you need to know what her MIL did after the birth of her first baby.

During her first delivery, she only had her sibling and husband in the delivery room because "it was a complicated pregnancy and really complicated birth and aftermath." So they told grandma-to-be that after the birth, they'd arrange a visit at home when everyone was settled. "She took this to mean jump on a plane straight away without telling us upon hearing news of the birth," she wrote. "We only knew she was here because a nurse came to us after I had minor surgery to fix an injury during birth that a woman was trying to get into the NICU to see our son. So that happened and I was annoyed but it was whatever."

So this time around, her MIL started calling and messaging her husband nonstop after they shared the baby news -- which was odd.

Only to find out that grandma informed her son that she "has dibs" on being in the delivery room this time or else she won't come to help their first born.

That's right -- grandma laid down an ultimatum. Either she gets an invite to the birth suite or she won't be helping with her older grandson like she volunteered to after the birth as they adjust to life with a second child.

"This woman is nothing short of competitive with my family when it comes to our son. She will throw a fit if when we fly home for a visit if my family has more time. I am convinced she has a tally board that has a tick for each visit family make to us or vice versa," she wrote. "So now this woman, who I've recently made great strides to heal old wounds and bury the hatchet with, is trying to dictate to us that she be at the birth and somehow thinks that my sister has already seen one so it's her 'turn.'

But that's not even what this mom is most p*ssed at her MIL for.

It's the fact that she would go over her to her husband to make these demands -- when she's the one pushing out the child. 

"Skipped right over asking me and put her own son in the unenviable position of passing along this message to me. [Dear husband] did hang up on her after his common sense approach missed its mark," she wrote. "He ended up texting her that we would be fine without her and that we weren't going to put up with this competitive sh*t again. She has since made some vague sad postings on fb about how her good intentions always get discarded and thrown back in her face. LOL."

And this confident mama is ready to let her in-law's actions blow up in her face instead of giving in.

"It is going to bite her in the ass because my family have already extended offers to watch my son or whatever we need in case this pregnancy and birth is like the last," she wrote. "I'm also considering giving her the wrong hospital and date to avoid another 'surprise.' Maybe this is IT. The final straw to make us both see that sacrificing our sanity so our son has a grandmother really isn't worth it."

Sorry grandma, but virtually nobody was on your side ...-placeholder
Sorry grandma, but virtually nobody was on your side ...

Sorry grandma, but virtually nobody was on your side ...

"Wow. The sheer effrontery of not only demanding admission with a blackmail threat but acting as though the person giving birth isn't in charge!" one user wrote. "Yeah, I'd be calling her to let her know that she's now ensured that she has no visitation with the new baby, because you don't negotiate with terrorists and she can take a long walk off a short pier."

Even a delivery nurse was outraged at this MIL's ballsy demand.-placeholder
Even a delivery nurse was outraged at this MIL's ballsy demand.

Even a delivery nurse was outraged at this MIL's ballsy demand.

And if nothing else, people are pointing out that at least she gave her daughter-in-law a pretty priceless gift:-placeholder
And if nothing else, people are pointing out that at least she gave her daughter-in-law a pretty priceless gift:

And if nothing else, people are pointing out that at least she gave her daughter-in-law a pretty priceless gift:

"You could also add to this list: 'Oh Jane is upset that she’s not allowed here? Did she tell you why? Oh, it’s because I refused to allow her to see my vagina and being vulnerable during birth and she decided that because she couldn’t see it, she wouldn’t watch my son,'" another person added.

Luckily, they might not even have to deal with this problem if things stay the same ...-placeholder
Luckily, they might not even have to deal with this problem if things stay the same ...

Luckily, they might not even have to deal with this problem if things stay the same ...

But even if they don't end up moving, mom already has a plan. "We're gonna tell them and the NICU/maternity ward that unexpected visitors need to be turned away. I'm only in the 1st trimester and it feels nuts to be planning that far ahead, but now I realize that it's for our own good," she added. "She can waste money on a plane ticket all she wants but she won't be getting near any of us anytime soon."

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