This Mom Knows That Breast Isn't 'Best' for Her Unborn Baby & Doesn't Care What You Think

Jessica Hood
Instagram/Houseofhoods_

It seems that you can't go anywhere on the Internet without someone extolling the virtues of breastfeeding. "It helps with immune systems! It will cure asthma! It might make your baby have a higher IQ!" Breast is best is not just a trend -- it seems as if more and more women don't feel as if they have any other options. Well, one pregnant mom decided to not let the negative voices make this important decision for her family. Instead, blogger Jessica Hood is getting real about why she's decided to bottle-feed her soon-to-be born child. "Although a slightly controversial topic I think it needs to be spoken about more," she wrote on Instagram.

  • "Yes -- I’m not breastfeeding my baby and I am not ashamed one bit," she posted.

    Jessica shared that she's known about her "conscious decision" not to breastfeed for months now and felt the need to speak up about it in honor of other moms who have been bullied for making the same choice. "It doesn’t make us any less of a mom, it doesn’t mean we are doing something wrong," she wrote. "Whatever works for you and your baby is what works. Your baby is loved, fed, happy, and thriving, how is it anyone else’s business whether or not you breast or bottle-fed. ... Something has gotta change and women need to support each other during such a fragile time."

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  • The mom of four and blogger explains that her rocky history of breastfeeding is what influenced her "controversial choice."

    Jessica Hood
    Jessica Hood

    Speaking to CafeMom, Jessica explains that her decision to bottle-feed wasn't made on a whim. 

    "I’m due in just four weeks but decided quite some time ago that I would choose to bottle-feed my baby," she says. 

    "This is my fourth child and the decision was based on previous experiences," she adds. "After my first daughter Lily (now 5), I suffered from postpartum depression, and although a lot of different things contributed to it, not being able to perfect the art of breastfeeding was one of them."

    Jessica says that not being able feed Lily made her feel "extremely disappointed in myself" and like she was "a failure to not be able to do the most natural thing in the world." 

    Jessica tried to breastfeed again with her next child, Eden, but struggled again because of an undiagnosed tongue tie that caused Eden to not be able to nurse.

    "She was losing weight and struggling to feed. The mom guilt started again," she remembers.

  • For her next child, Jessica says she has decided to bottle-feed as a way to make her mental health a priority. 

    Jessica Hood
    Jessica Hood

    "As someone who is still struggling with mental health, I decided early on do to what I think is best for myself and my family," the mom admits.

    Although the topic has become even more "taboo" in recent years, Jessica says that she doesn't feel confined by the stigma of being a bottle-feeding mama. "It’s now 2018 and the debate needs to stop. Both are perfectly fine to do and both are acceptable," she says.

    "Breastfeeding is really hard, and moms need more support with the decision even if it’s to bottle-feed," she continues. "As women and mothers, the choices we make as parents impact our lives every day, and being a parent is hard enough with feeling judged or criticized for the decisions we make."

  • Jessica says that going public with her decision was never meant "to cause debate but rather bring (women) together."

    In an intimate post on her Instagram account Houseofhoods_, Jessica shares a raw photo of herself and baby, which is fitting considering that she's built her brand on being transparent and honest with her followers.

    "I started posting on Instagram and blogging as an outlet for myself," she says. "I still suffer from anxiety, so this was a great way for me to talk about the issues we all face as well as connecting with with other moms.

    "When I made the decision to speak about this, it wasn’t to cause debate but rather bring us together," she continues. "A lot of women have opened up to me and posted [on social media that] they aren’t breastfeeding, and I think that’s wonderful. We all want best for our babies, and although they say breast is best, sometimes in certain situations it’s not."

    But that doesn't mean that Jessica is anti-breastfeeding. "Another issue that really bothers me is mothers who are criticized for breastfeeding in public," she says. "I think it’s disgusting that mothers are shamed for doing this and that needs to change as well." 

    The mom says that she hasn't faced many negative comments about her choice online, although she does shy away from reading the comments of her posts too closely. 

    In the end, Jessica says that she's sharing this part of her life so that other women can know that they have choice when it comes to feeding their baby.

    "There is no right or wrong in this situation. As long as baby is happy, healthy, and thriving, you are doing a great job!" she says.

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