What 1 Breastfeeding Mom Learned From the Men Talking About Her in Starbucks

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If you're a new mom breastfeeding in public for the first time, the experience most likely won't be stress-free. Even if your baby latches on perfectly without any pain or a single struggle and you find the perfect spot where you feel comfortable nursing, you're likely to feel at least a slight pang of anxiety about what those around you are thinking. That's thanks to the harsh stigma about breastfeeding in public that many nursing moms face -- especially during their first try. This fear and stress can go on for weeks, months, or throughout your entire breastfeeding journey which is why one mom is speaking out about the one major incident she had while nursing her baby in public.

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The anonymous mom shared with Breastfeeding Mama Talk's Facebook page that she was thrilled to leave the house when her 5-week-old finally started latching on without problems. "I had been stuck to a pump and was like, 'Woooooooo freedom!'" she wrote.

So at her first chance, she left the house and took her little one to Starbucks but of course, he got hungry as soon as they walked in. So she sat, struggled to latch, but the pair worked on it together and he finally calmed down as he nursed. "A table of men, maybe 65-80 years old were watching. Staring really," she wrote. "Then talking in a language I didn’t understand. I got so worried! I felt eyes on me and was literally bracing myself and sweating."

As the men got up to leave, they walked over and stopped at this breastfeeding mom's table. "I thought 'oh crap, here it goes,'" she wrote. "My son felt my anxiety and unlatched, leaving my nipple leaking and me scrambling to cover up."

Once of the men then learned in, put a hand on her baby's head and said, "This is so good for you. in our country women breastfeed everywhere and here we never see it. you’re a good mother and your son is lucky,” she recalled.

The group then walked out, leaving this new mom completely speechless. "I spent an hour worried, anxious, wondering what they were saying as they judged me for nursing in public. And instead, it was just a story I made up, told myself, let myself believe," she wrote.

Now whenever she breastfeeds in public and notices someone staring, she's changed the dialogue in her head to to hear “Good job. Your baby is lucky. Insert more cheerleading here” and she just smiles a huge smile back.  "Even if they were really judging me, I chose to tell my own story and just be comfortable with my own choices," she wrote. "I’m so grateful that happened the very first time I [nursed in public]!" she wrote. "I ended up nursing three kids back-to-back and tandem over the next almost eight years."

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