What Stay-at-Home Moms Who 'Don't Work' Do All Day, for Those Who Don't Get It

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Anyone who thinks a stay-at-home mom's life is easy most likely has never been a SAHM for an extended period of time. Sure, there may be chunks of time where you can make your own schedule and do what you want, but you are also always on the clock with no sick days or vacations. Others assume that when your kids go to school you're left with nothing to do all day, but that simply isn't the case for every mom. Yet, some still want to know how these women possibly fill their days when they aren't at a traditional office.

  • An anonymous user asked online what stay-at-home moms do when they aren't "working" and their kids are at school.

    In a post on that could come across as pretty judgmental, one woman asked fellow Mumsnet users for some clarity about stay-at-home moms. There's no question that stay-at-home moms with older children have more control over their day, and maybe this person was seriously curious about how the workload shifts. Or maybe she was trying to passively throw stones at those who work hard but just in a different way.

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  • This is a seriously bold question to ask any stay-at-home mom.

  • Even if it came from a genuinely curious and nonjudgmental place, you know it's going to get heated.


  • Many SAHMs brought out the sass.

  • After all, stay-at-home moms don't have jobs and so they "don't work," right?

  • Wrong. As this mom pointed out, the difference is that when you're the boss, you make your own schedule.

  • ... Even if people judge you for staying home and make up what they think you do.


  • But some gave the curious person the benefit of the doubt and broke it down for her.

  • Sure, they might get to do some things for themselves in between the sh*t they are doing for everyone else.

  • Some definitely try to catch up on the sleep the kids steal from them, if they're lucky enough to.

  • And others will enjoy some well-deserved "me time" in between doing everything else for everyone else.

  • But a stay-at-home mom's "me time" is just as valuable and well-deserved as a working mom's.


  • Because their days are spent doing literally everything (except for napping and having sex).

  • Some even admit to wanting to go back to work just for a break from it all.

  • And it doesn't matter if kids are in school or still young, stay-at-home moms shouldn't have to justify how they spend their time.

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