Partner Slams Wife for Drinking While Pregnant & the Internet Is Taking Sides


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As soon as you tell people that you're pregnant or strangers are able to detect a growing baby bump, something magical happens: They start judging everything you do. From whether you're gaining too much or too little weight to if you're allowed that cup of coffee, expectant moms are pretty much always doing something wrong to an onlooker. But when that concerned person is your partner/co-parent to that growing baby, and what you're doing could actually have long-lasting consequences, does he or she have the right to make you stop?

  • One pregnant wife has her partner not only pissed but also confused over what to do because she refuses to stop drinking during her pregnancy.

    According to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, there is no known safe amount of alcohol consumption during pregnancy, and this substance is dangerous because it passes through the mother's blood to the developing baby through the umbilical cord. "Drinking alcohol during pregnancy can cause miscarriage, stillbirth, and a range of lifelong physical, behavioral, and intellectual disabilities," the CDC's website states. "These disabilities are known as fetal alcohol spectrum disorders (FASDs)."

    However, some believe that there's only concern if "excessive" drinking is involved and that a pregnant woman having a glass of wine isn't likely to harm a baby. Despite this parent coming from a place of concern for the baby, many online sided with the pregnant mom-to-be and things got heated on Mumsnet over whether women have the right to indulge in moderation when they're expecting -- and if their partners should be able to have a say in it. 

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  • An overwhelming amount of people had this pregnant woman's back and think it's her body and therefore her choice:

  • Not everyone agrees that even a sip of wine is ever worth the risk. Some argued it's just nine months, and she should respect her partner's concern:

  • But for those who automatically took Mom-to-be's side because they assumed the poster was a controlling husband criticizing his wife, you're wrong:

    The concerned party is a woman, and whether or not she should be able to voice her concerns should have nothing to do with her gender anyway. Either way, this woman appreciated both sides of the debate, and like all good partners should, she's going to work to support her pregnant wife to the best of her abilities while continuing to speak up if she thinks her baby is in jeopardy.