New Mom Wants to Ban Visitors for the First Month & People Are Getting Heated

Lauren Levy September 28, 2017 at 4:23 PM

There's something about getting pregnant that seems to open the floodgate for endless unsolicited advice. Moms-to-be often quickly learn that these judgmental opinions aren't reserved for how they raise or care for their child but are pretty much open to any decision they make, and one area that is often debated is new parents' rules for when and how they let others visit their newborn. One mom simply doesn't want any visitors for the first month and is considering a strict ban to help keep her sanity -- and the Internet is having some feelings about it.

"Is it just me or is there a lot of people who think they have some right to see a squishy newborn??" an anonymous mom wrote on Mumsnet.

"My friends have sent messages saying congratulations, let us know when I'm up for visitors / meeting up etc.," she wrote. "Lovely. But family, especially family that you don't see much of normally, expect to come round and see you when the baby is a couple of days old. There is never any question of 'is mom ready for it?' Or is it convenient?? No of course not!!"
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Despite her initial hard stance, the mom revealed she did allow the grandparents to come stay with her for the first two weeks -- not that it helped.

"My folks have tried to help out with chores, etc. but to be honest, at this moment in time I don't give a sh*t about the washing etc. as long as [my oldest daughter] has her uniform. Lawn can be mowed next week/month/year," she wrote. "I just want to have cuddles with both of my girls. I want my [dear husband] to have the chance to look after me and bond with his new daughter instead of making endless cups of tea."
Although many moms can relate to wanting to recover without having to worry about entertaining guests, her visitor ban has sparked heated debate.
Some feel strongly about letting people come over -- and appreciating it while the offers to help are still coming.
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Others agree that this mom should lay down the law and just say no.
No matter what, all parents are different and entitled to their opinions -- without being criticized.

New Mom Wants to Ban Visitors for the First Month & People Are Getting Heated

"Is it just me or is there a lot of people who think they have some right to see a squishy newborn??" an anonymous mom wrote on Mumsnet.

Despite her initial hard stance, the mom revealed she did allow the grandparents to come stay with her for the first two weeks -- not that it helped.

Although many moms can relate to wanting to recover without having to worry about entertaining guests, her visitor ban has sparked heated debate.

Some feel strongly about letting people come over -- and appreciating it while the offers to help are still coming.

Others agree that this mom should lay down the law and just say no.

No matter what, all parents are different and entitled to their opinions -- without being criticized.

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