Why This Mom Doesn't Think It's 'Lucky' That She's Still Breastfeeding

breastfeeding baby with bow
Melissa Long Spadone/Facebook

Just because a woman decides to nurse her baby doesn't mean that once she actually gives birth, her breastfeeding journey will go according to plan. From problems latching to a low supply, it might not be physically possible to even breastfeed for more than a limited time. For the moms who tried everything and desperately wanted to breastfeed but couldn't, it's easy to understand why they might think moms with successful breastfeeding relationships got "lucky." However, mom Melissa Spadone doesn't see it that way and wants people to stop telling her how fortunate she is that she's breastfeeding.


"I am often told how 'lucky' I am to be able to successfully breastfeed but I have to respectfully disagree," she wrote on Facebook. "Luck has nothing to do with it, dedication does (and maybe a little stubbornness)."

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Melissa Long Spadone/Facebook

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Although some might say luck definitely plays into it for at least allowing Melissa and her baby to physically be able to breastfeed, this mom doesn't associate any good juju with her personal journey. "It takes dedication to make it through the first few weeks of breastfeeding when it feels like razor blades are being taken to a very sensitive part of the body," she wrote. "It takes dedication to be the ONLY person who can feed the baby, day or night, thanks to worthless man nipples."

This mom explained that it was perseverance, and not luck, that got her through the cluster feedings, the sleepless nights, and the times she needed to manage everything with one hand while also nursing a fussy baby with the other. "It takes dedication to be a human pacifier," she wrote. "It takes dedication to pump every three hours for 30 minutes when away from baby, even during the night."

According to this mom, being "blessed" had nothing to do with her limiting her wardrobe to only outfits that make her boobs easily accessible and her decision to continue nursing through the difficult times. "It takes dedication to breastfeed through mastitis," she wrote. "Lastly (I know there are many more), it takes dedication to breastfeed in public with the risk of being bullied/shamed."

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Her strong message has riled women up online, as some celebrate her message as cheering breastfeeding moms on while others think it shames those who physically couldn't breastfeed their babies.


Even if you don't agree with her perspective, this mom wants people to realize that there are many other factors aside from luck that contribute to a successful breastfeeding relationship -- and that her hard work shouldn't be overlooked because of something others assume she had little control over.

"Supporting another's success won't ever dampen yours," Melissa added in the comments on her post. "I have been able to breastfed my two children (the first being a NICU baby for Gastroschisis) and I'm so proud of all my hard work! I understand some women give their all and still aren't able to breastfed, and there is no shame in that. That time she breastfed -- whether two hours or four years -- took dedication and strength that should be celebrated!"

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