School Says Girl's Outfit Is 'Distracting to Boys' & Her Dad Is Fighting Back

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News about girls "violating" ridiculous school dress codes is seemingly endless. We've seen everything from girls being told they aren't allowed to wear leggings because of their size to awesome protests led by male students in solidarity with their female classmates. But the way the world reacts to restrictive school dress codes is changing, and it's people like this father who are leading the charge. A California middle school could be changing its dress code after one father spoke out when his daughter was sent home from school for wearing a romper.


Thirteen-year-old Demetra Alarcon was told by a teacher at Fisher Middle School that her romper was "distracting to boys" due to its length. Demetra then contacted her father, asking him to bring a change of clothes to school. "I brought her a change of clothing, which included a tank top with spaghetti straps and shorts," her father, Tony Alarcon, said in an interview with CBS News.

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Still, the school wasn't pleased, stating that the new outfit also violated the school's dress code policy. It was then that Tony decided enough was enough. "I mean, today it's 90 degrees outside and she's wearing leggings because she doesn't want to be dress-coded for wearing shorts," he said. "And it's not okay. It needs to change."

The dad took to the popular online neighborhood forum to ask his neighbors if his frustration with the school's dress code policy was unfounded. Instead of criticism, he claims he received an outpouring of support from parents who were or had been in similar situations. One woman in particular stood out to him, writing: "Your post has reminded me of some fairly serious body-image issues of my own that have stemmed from our cultural shaming and sexualizing of girls' bodies."

In an effort to prevent these long-lasting body-image issues in his daughter and other young girls, Tony took his fight to the school board. "You have to stand up for what's right and that's what I'm doing," he told CBS News. 

The Los Gatos Union School District met Monday to discuss the possibility of changing its dress code. While no concrete decision has been released as of yet, superintendent Diana G. Abbati told CBS News that parents should expect news sometime in the near future. 

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Unfortunately, Demetra isn't the only girl in the country to fall victim to unfair, offensive school dress code policies, but with the help of her father, she may be able to turn her experience into a huge win.

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