5-Year-Old Girl Expertly Shuts Down a Classmate Who Called Her Fat

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Women are judged, picked apart, and ridiculed for their bodies on a pretty consistent basis. It seems like no matter what a women does in regards to her body, she is shamed for it. Body shaming can also start disturbingly early. Fortunately, one 5-year-old girl was totally prepared when a classmate called her "fat."


The 5-year-old's mother, Allison Kimmey, shared her daughter's first experience with body shaming on Instagram.

Kimmey says her daughter, Cambelle, told her, "Yesterday at practice my shirt came up a little bit and my tummy was showing. The girl next to me looked at me and said that my tummy was fat."

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Like most mothers would be, Allison was angry at first. "Insert immediate mama bear reaction in my head's internal dialogue," she wrote. "'Oh no, here we go,' I thought to myself."

Still, she managed to rein in her apprehension so that she could hear the rest of her daughter's story. "Oh really?" she asked her. "And what did you say to her?"

"I told her that I'm not fat, I HAVE fat," Cambelle answered, "and that everybody has fat. And I told her it's okay to have fat."

body positive mom and daughter
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Cambelle's response is eerily similar to a conversation she had with her mother in the past. Allison, a vocal body-positive activist, actually went viral months ago after she wrote a post about Cambelle calling her fat.

"The truth is, I am not fat. No one IS fat. It's not something you can BE. But I do HAVE fat. We ALL have fat," Allison told her daughter at the time. Cambelle apparently took her mother's words to heart.

Seeing a child respond so beautifully to her mother's heartfelt life lessons is always amazing -- especially when those lessons help form the beautiful way she views herself and others.

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Allison ended her most recent inspiring post with some wise words about the importance of teaching our children how to handle situations like the one Cambelle found herself in. "Children aren't born with hate inside them. They learn words from their environments and the things they see/hear, and they try them on for size," she wrote. "I can't prepare my daughter for all of life's situations, but I can help her to be a voice of compassion, humility and love."

Allison and Cambelle's interaction serves as an incredibly important reminder that our words can have major impacts on our children, much the same way that self-love makes a huge difference in the ways our kids view themselves. 

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