Grieving Dad Shares the 10 Most Important Things He's Learned Since Losing His Baby Boy

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Richard Pringle / Facebook

After living through an unthinkable tragedy, Richard Pringle opened up about surviving every parent's biggest fear: the death of a child. The dad from London experienced this heartbreak when his 3-year-old boy died from a brain hemorrhage last year. Although Hughie only had a 5 percent chance of bleeding to death due to his rare brain condition, the toddler unexpectedly passed away last summer, despite being otherwise healthy.

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In the months since losing his child, Richard has reflected on the memories he made with Hughie and shared the 10 most important things he learned about parenting since his toddler's tragic death in a viral post on Facebook.

"You always have time. Stop what you're doing and play, even if it's just for a minute," Richard wrote on Facebook. "Nothing's that important that it can't wait."


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From telling parents that you can never, ever kiss or love too much to encouraging them to take as many photos and videos as humanly possible, he offers a heartbreaking reminder that these memories are all you might have left one day -- and you never know how soon that can be.

"Don't spend money, spend time. You think what you spend matters? It doesn't. What you do matters," he wrote. "Jump in puddles, go for walks. Swim in the sea, build a camp and have fun. That's all they want. I can't remember what we bought Hughie, I can only remember what we did."

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Richard Pringle / Facebook

Richard advises every parent to sing plenty of songs together and to never take those moments for granted because some of his happiest memories are of Hughie sitting on his shoulder or next to him in the car and singing their favorite songs. "Memories are created in music," he wrote. "Cherish the simplest of things. Night times, bedtimes, reading stories. Dinners together. Lazy Sundays. Cherish the simplest of times. They are what I miss the most. Don't let those special times pass you by unnoticed."

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In addition to making the boring tasks like running errands more fun by filling chores with laughter, Richard also understands the importance in always kissing the ones you love goodbye -- even when you forget at first. "Go back and kiss them. You never know if it's the last time you'll get the chance," he wrote.

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Richard Pringle / Facebook

Although it's impossible to make time stand still, the next best option to this grieving dad is keeping a journal while your kids are little. "Write down everything your little ones do that lights up your world. The funny things they say, the cute things they do," he wrote. "We only started doing this after we lost Hughie. We wanted to remember everything .... You'll have these memories written down forever and when you're older you can look back and cherish every moment."

Most importantly Richard hopes that if you're a parent, you will always remember just how incredibly lucky you are. "If you have your children with you. To kiss goodnight. To have breakfast with. To walk to school. To take to university. To watch get married. You are blessed," he wrote. "Never ever forget that."

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Richard Pringle / Facebook

 

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