Little Girl's Perfect Response to Friend Being Called a Racial Slur Is a Lesson to All of Us

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Discussions centered around racism and oppression are hard to have. They always have been, and they likely always will be. This is especially true when it comes to having the discussion with children. Still, that doesn't make it any less necessary. Kids learn from the world around them, and during a time when racism is at the forefront of our minds, it isn't enough to put off the hard-to-handle topics. This little girl's response to her best friend being called a racial slur has the ability to be an important lesson for all of us. 


On Monday, August 13, just days after the events in Charlottesville, mom and author Rachel Macy Stafford took to Facebook to share an incredible story. 

Alongside a photo of two girls sitting together on a football field, one black and one white, was a powerful retelling of what happened when Stafford's daughter witnessed someone hurl a racial slur at her best friend. 

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Stafford recounted her daughter's reaction in the post. "'I asked her if she was okay,' my child said tearfully. 'She didn't say anything so I just scooted closer.' ... 'I didn't know what to do, Mama, so I just hurt with her.'"

"I just hurt with her." A phrase so simple but still so poignant. 

Stafford went on to discuss a strong sense of pride in her daughter. She explained the deep, meaningful relationship that exists between the two girls, the encouragement they provide each other with, the candid but supportive nature of their words, and the small sacrifices they make in the name of their friendship. 

The first part of the post reads as follows:

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Even further, Macy expressed what she wants others to take from their story: not the false passivity or ignorance that many adopt in the face of things like racism, but true unity. 

"What if we collectively look into the eyes of our brothers and sisters to acknowledge their story and their pain rather than closing our eyes or looking away?" Macy wrote. "What if we collectively acknowledged [that] our privileges and blessings would be even greater if shared by our sisters and brothers?"

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There are times, especially right now, when our future looks bleak. We don't always know what's ahead of us and we don't always have the answers. One thing we do know is that we depend on each other. 

Tackling issues like racism requires so much more than "we are all one race" platitudes. They require us to reach out, listen closely, learn from those who are different, and yes, hurt with them too. 

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