Mom Shares a Must-Read Warning With Parents After Her Baby's Tragic Death

Mom Jordan DeRosier
Jordan DeRosier/Facebook

There's no greater loss a parent will experience than losing a child, and for one Washington mom, that nightmare has become a very real and tormenting reality. Jordan DeRosier's tragic Facebook warning to parents after the death of her 7-month-old son Sloan, her rainbow baby, spotlights a common, potentially fatal danger moms and dads often overlook.

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"This is the face of immense, unfathomable grief, the face of longing, of heartbreak, of self inflicted GUILT," DeRosier writes in her somber Facebook plea to parents

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DeRosier put her 7-month-old in his crib to sleep, kissing Sloan goodnight, and leaving him with a blankie his great-grandmother made, along with his beloved gray blankie -- which ultimately took his life in an unthinkable accident.

Mom Jordan DeRosier
Jordan DeRosier/Facebook

"[Sloan] had pulled it through the crib rails somehow and gotten himself stuck in it," the grieving mother writes in her post with a photo of her clutching Sloan's blanket as she lies next to her son Rowan. "You never think it will happen to you. You never think it will be your baby."

As DeRosier explains in an updated Facebook post, shared in the early hours of July 6, she was the one who discovered Sloan inside his crib the next morning with his favorite blankie wrapped around his face. She did everything she could -- along with her husband Justin and neighbors -- to bring her sweet baby back to life.

"I remember [Justin] laying Sloan on the kitchen counter, trying to perform CPR while on the phone with 911," DeRosier recounts in her update. "I was still screaming. Our neighbor heard and stood under our window and shouted 'Do you need help?' I remember him banging on our door, asking me if he could do something .... At some point another neighbor arrived. Those two men took turns pumping Sloan's tiny chest for 20 minutes."

With paramedics and loved ones at the scene, sadly, emergency responders confirmed this mother's worst nightmare.

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"A paramedic came down the hallway after almost 30 minutes, kneeling in front of me," DeRosier continues in her Facebook post. "He placed his hand on my knee and said softly 'He's gone.' He asked if I wanted to see him, and walked me back out to the living room. On the ottoman was his small body under one of the throw blankets. I pulled the blanket away from his face and collapsed over him sobbing. 'Oh my baby, my baby, I'm so sorry.'"

Since sharing the news of her son Sloan's death, this mom has been inundated with responses -- including many from anti-vaxxers who initially assumed 7-month-old Sloan somehow died from a vaccination and felt the need message this mother.

"To those who keep commenting and messaging trying to blame vaccines for our sons death -- stop," DeRosier stated in her Facebook post. "Initially, I had not wanted to explain the detailed circumstances of his death, because of my guilt and the fear of condemnation from others. But I will not allow anyone to try and place blame where it does not belong."

The DeRosiers are determined to make sure what happens to Sloan never happens to another child.

"Please do not put your babies to bed with a blanket," DeRosier urged other mothers and fathers on her Facebook page. "Please. He was 7 months old, I thought because he was crawling, standing on his own, and climbing, that he would be fine with a blanket .... I will NEVER stop feeling responsible. I will relive this for the rest of my life knowing EXACTLY what I could have done differently. Please learn from my world shattering mistake."

The American Academy of Pediatrics also reveals cozy crib additions can still be hazardous to babies older than 4 months, and according to the National Institutes of Health, more than half of US children sleep with unsafe bedding. Both stark realities make this mother's plea all the more urgent. 

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As this family continues to grieve, DeRosier is hopeful her son will live on in a powerful way.

"Since Sloan's death, I have found myself repeatedly saying 'He didn't even get to be anyone, he didn't get to do great things.' I was wrong," the grieving mom reflected alongside media coverage of her story on July 5. "Our sweet boy has made his way around the world, his death has made an impact on hundreds of thousands of people, his story is saving the lives of other babies. Sweet boy you are doing amazing things, even in your afterlife."

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