Mom 'Pierces' Baby's Cheek to Prove a Point & Facebook Can't Deal

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Enedina Vance/Facebook

When an Ohio mom named Enedina Vance recently posted a photo of her baby girl rocking a "cheek piercing," she wasn't exactly advocating that a child get body piercings before preschool. But her post has drummed up quite the Facebook controversy.


"It looks so cute, right?!!" the mom wrote alongside a photo of her daughter on Facebook. "I just know she's gonna love it!! She'll thank me when she's older lol If she decides she doesn't like it, she can just take it out, no big deal."

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Enedina Vance's daughter
Enedina Vance/Facebook

Nonchalant and unbothered AF in her approach, Vance obviously doesn't see the big deal about making the decision for her daughter to get pierced on her face ... and doesn't think you should either.

"I'm the parent, she is MY CHILD, I will do whatever I want!!" she goes on to write in her Facebook post. "I make all of her decisions until she's 18, I made her, I own her!! I don't need anyone's permission, I think it's better, cuter, & I prefer her to have her dimple pierced. Its NOT abuse!! If it was, it would be illegal, but it's not. People pierce their babies everyday, this is no different."

If you continue to read Vance's Facebook post in its entirety, you'll know it's not real (peep the #sarcasm hashtag at the end). Instead, she aimed to shine a light on a child's right to genital integrity -- and how hypocritical she thinks it is for people to have an issue with a cheek piercing and not modifying your child's body through circumcision.

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And as you probably guessed, Facebook commenters were locked and loaded in the comment section. But many surprisingly rallied behind this mom and her message.

"I thought this was real at first," one commenter wrote on Vance's post. "I hope it opens up some people's eyes to what they're doing to babies." 

"Laying that sarcasm on THICK!" wrote another. "Love this analogy! Great job."

Others didn't understand Vance's intentions and were either upset by the image or by the comparison of body piercings on a baby to circumcision.

After receiving backlash on her post and threats in her DMs, Vance clarified her original post and her message.

"In a way, I'm glad people responded the way they did," Vance noted. "I didn't take any of their comments, anger, or hate to heart. They were, in their own way, try to protect my baby.

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She continues:

"However, I'm disappointed that it didn't really go much further than that. Once they were made aware of what my post was actually about, they just said 'Oh' & went on their way. Others dismissed the connection between the dimple piercing & genital cutting & felt it necessary to attempt to explain why they cut their child. It's ironic that they were ready to beat me to death over my excuses for piercing my baby, but then they used the same EXACT excuse to justify cutting their baby.

".... How is it so triggering, so enraging to see my baby with a pierced dimple, but actually knowing a baby is being strapped down & forcibly having his most sensitive & innervative portion of his penis amputated, seems perfectly ok?? How can society threaten death over one, but encourage & support the other? Piercing is bad, but cutting is accepted as the norm?"

Sadly, Vance reveals people are still sending her CPS threats to get her daughter taken away in response to her post. That's pretty nuts considering news outlets have stated the "cheek piercing" was Photoshopped. 

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Circumcision has long been an area of contention among parents. Some look at the practice of removing foreskin from a child as no big deal; others do it as part of a religious tradition; and others, like Vance, consider it unnecessary abuse that needs to stop. And with close to 80 percent of Americans choosing to circumcise their baby boys, this mom is not afraid to go there, believing it's definitely a conversation worth discussing.

"I'm so excited that the world is finally talking about children's right to physical integrity," Vance said in another Facebook post. "I wanted people to get outraged, to react, to be completely shocked that someone would pierce their child's face. Then, after they realize what the post is actually about, piercing the face doesn't seem so bad when compared to genital cutting. They have to justify their outrage over a piercing vs. their acceptance of genital mutilation."

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