Mom Arrested for Taking Her Kid to a Bar -- but the Internet Is Divided

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A bar is probably one of the last places you'd expect to find a baby. But, while the visual of a small child chugging down a bottle as Mom or Dad nurses a cold one in a tavern might make some clutch their pearls, oftentimes, it's just not that serious. Sadly, though, things did get serious for a 38-year-old mom who was arrested after taking her toddler to a bar, and it's sparked a discussion about bringing children to a place typically deemed "for adults only."

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Police arrested Anne K. Callan on May 19 at the Tudor Lounge in downtown Buffalo, charging her with two counts of child endangerment amid allegations that she left her little boy "in a stroller while she drank alcohol and the child was surrounded by smoke and live loud music," the Buffalo News reports. Authorities also claim a nearby adult stopped Anne's toddler son "without the mother even noticing" as he made a dash for the street while they sat on the patio -- prompting a 911 call out of fear for the child's well-being.

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While questions still remain about what happened that night (WIVB 4 News reports officers even brought diapers to change the toddler because none were present), the thought of a mother hanging out in a bar on a Friday night with her toddler is enough to anger people. Dozens of people on social media jumped to conclusions about what the mom was doing at the bar and how late she was out.

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... But that might not be the entire story.

Contrary to claims that she arrived to the bar at 9 p.m., Anne says she and her son got to Tudor Lounge before 7 p.m. and the two enjoyed dinner with her friend's band, whom she came to see play. The mom and son duo later headed to a patio after the band's set ended around 7:30 p.m., as things got a bit loud. Being outside apparently inspired the mom's 20-month-old to make a run for the street, as most children do at the sight of freedom, but she says she was right there with him.

"I had to hop over the stroller to go after him," Callan tells the Buffalo News. One of the people smoking on the other side of the patio "got up and grabbed him," she said, adding: "I was right in back of him. It all happened in a matter of seconds."

Any parent with a pint-sized child can attest to how quickly kids can leave mom or dad in the dust, giving the impression no one is watching the child.

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Though Anne tells the Buffalo News she's taken her 20-month-old son to "so many different places," the mom says that when it comes to bars, "Never again."

Since the incident, there has been an outpouring of support on social media for this mom.

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Even Marshall Glover, the man who stopped Anne's son from running into the street, came to her defense.

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Callan also took to Facebook, where she thanked the Good Samaritan who intercepted her toddler from running into the street.

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... And, sadly, revealed she's been separated from her child since the ordeal.

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Wow.

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Anne isn't the first parent to bring a child to a bar and certainly won't be the last. When my oldest was younger, my husband and I would take him with us to post-rugby game drink-ups at sponsor bars -- meeting other families and their children. There was food, laughs, games, and, yes, alcohol. I'm also "guilty" of bringing my kids to a gastropub for dinner, because, let's face it, some of the best food is served in bars.

So long as a parent isn't trying to relive former glory days, with never-ending shots in one hand and a baby in the other into the wee hours of the morning -- and businesses are okay with families enjoying some time in their establishment -- is it really fair to throw stones?

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