If You Thought You Were Safe From Breastfeeding Shamers in the Bathroom, Think Again

Mom Ana Davis with baby daughter and husband Joel Davis
KSL-TV

The criticism toward breastfeeding mothers has gotten so ridiculous that naysayers might as well recite Dr. Seuss's Green Eggs and Ham to express their disgust. "I would not like them here or there. I would not like them anywhere." Apparently, nursing moms shouldn't feed their babies in public without covers, on park benches, at a restaurant, or even in the one place we thought we were safe: a restroom! (*Insert eye roll*) Ana Davis is a Utah breastfeeding mom who was told to leave a Nordstrom Rack bathroom ... because the sight of her nursing her month-old daughter Mia made an onlooker "uncomfortable."

 

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It's hard not to WTF this entire situation, as Ana made the decision to retreat to the bathroom while shopping with LO just to feed her daughter -- and still caught sh*t for it!

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"She was crying. She was ready to have her meal, so I went to the restroom and found an open chair," David tells KSL News. "We [Ana and her baby] were approached by a Nordstrom employee who had said a complaint had been made that somebody was feeling uncomfortable ... doing their business while there was a nursing mother in the restroom."

In an effort to appease the customer who had to pee (or poop) in peace, Ana says the Nordstrom Rack employee asked her to leave the bathroom and finish nursing her baby daughter inside a changing room. "It was a little embarrassing at first. I didn't feel like I was doing anything wrong by nursing," David adds.

Since the incident, Ana's husband Joel contacted Nordstrom for an explanation as to why his wife and daughter had to be displaced for people to pee. "It provokes the question, why did it make sense to ask a nursing mother to leave the privacy of a bathroom?" Davis asks KSL News. 

You tell 'em, Dad!

"We as a society are okay with, you know, low-cut shirts or advertisements of underwear models. But a nursing mother, to a lot of people, is just very offensive," Mom adds.

A Nordstrom representative released the following statement to KSL-TV:

We were so disappointed to hear Mrs. Davis say this was her experience when she visited our store, and we've followed up directly with her and her husband to apologize. We want every customer to feel comfortable while they're shopping with us, particularly nursing mothers. Though we're always happy to offer a fitting room if a mom is looking for additional privacy, our employees should never ask a nursing mom to move. We've looked into this and confirmed each of our employees knows that mothers are able to nurse in our store wherever they're most comfortable.

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(Sighs)

Can we talk?

As happy as I am that Nordstrom apologized for the actions of its employee, I can't help but shake my head at how Mom and baby had to get shuffled around like chess pieces so a customer could tinkle or release a bowel movement without a mom trying to breastfeed her baby in the same room.

Seriously?!

Do I look for the nearest employee every time I hear someone pass gas inside of a public bathroom -- or hear the sound of a turd splashing in the water? Do I seek out the manager on duty if I walk into a store restroom that now smells like the inside of a garbage truck on a hot day mixed with the apocalypse, thanks to the one person who decided to blow it up without concern for the nostrils of others?

No, I do not.

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I'm so frustrated for this mom and others who are constantly chastised and berated for trying to nurse their babies on the go -- without feeling the need to make a mad dash for their car (after they hide their shopping cart first, of course, in hopes no one will take the stuff they intend to buy when they return).

As a former breastfeeding mother, I found myself in Ana's shoes many times -- and if there was a sofa inside a public bathroom that enabled me not to straddle a random toilet, guess who was going to nurse my kid there? This mom.

Hell, the only time I caught flak for nursing one of my kids inside a public bathroom is when a group of moms got on me for not nursing outside the restroom because of how icky it is for the baby!

People really crack me up with their criticism and how "uncomfortable" breastfeeding moms make them feel ... but I guess that's the world we live in, SMH.

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