Why These Divorced Parents Still Make Time for Family Photos

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As we all know, divorce can be tough on grown-ups, but it can be especially hard on kids who may not understand why their parents are no longer together. Wanting their little guy to always have a strong sense of family though they're not living under the same roof, one mom and dad continue to pose for family portraits with their son as a reminder that even though they're divorced, they're always connected. 

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On the Love What Matters Facebook page, Victoria Baldwin shared these sweet and lovely photos of her family -- before and after divorce. Truthfully, if she hadn't told us that she and Adam, her ex, are no longer married, we might not have known.

What does come through loud and clear is the devotion these parents display for their young son. 

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Take a look:

 

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All you see is love, right? Baldwin explained in the caption why this special tradition has continued post-divorce:

The top two photos were taken when Adam and I were married. The bottom two, taken nearly one year and over two years after our divorce was finalized. We are not in love, we don't always agree, we're not best friends, sometimes we don't even like one another. But you know what we are? We are forever connected because of our beautiful, smart, kind, compassionate, funny son.

Talk about taking the high road. We love how honest she is and how both of these former partners put their boy first. She continued: 

We BOTH need to be there, we BOTH deserve quality time and quality memories with him. Neither of us blame one another for the direction our relationship took. We do not place blame on one another, and we certainly don't place blame in the presence of our son.

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She's so right. Placing blame is no way to move forward and it certainly won't help their son at all. It's refreshing to hear her admit that while she might not have all the answers to co-parenting, she and her ex are committed to doing the very best for their son. In her caption, she explained: 

Adam and I are not perfect co-parents, but we made a deal when we got divorced, to put our son first and to value the richness that we each bring to his life, for different reasons. So yes, we still have a family portrait taken, and I still pay good money to have the images printed, framed, and placed in our son's bedroom; he may not grow up with parents who live in the same house... but he will grow up to see respect, kindness, empathy, compassion, perseverance, flexibility, and even sacrifice being modeled by both of his parents and he will know it is possible to fall out of love but never fall apart.

Powerful stuff, right? What a lucky kid to have parents who are totally determined to put their differences aside and put his upbringing first. 

For some children of divorce, simple milestones such as birthdays, holidays, graduations, and more go from being eagerly anticipated events to dreaded chores as they hope their parents can get along and not ruin the day for all involved. Co-parenting is tricky, but it's totally possible for families to figure out how to navigate their changing relationships in a way that feels positive and loving for everyone.

It sounds like this family is off to a great start in building a solid foundation for their child. What an inspiration! 

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