Divorced Dad Shows What 'Putting the Kids First' Looks Like IRL

Billy Flynn shares an amazing co-parenting post all moms and dads need to read
Billy Flynn via Love What Matters/Facebook

Just because your relationship with your child's mother or father doesn't end with the two of you riding off into the sunset with wind in your hair doesn't mean there can't be a happily ever after for your family. Reminding us of this is Billy Flynn, a Boston lawyer and rad dad whose message about "modeling good relationship behavior" for your kids -- even if you don't happen to fancy your ex -- is so on point, it just might hit the bull's-eye.





Billy likely had no idea his words would resonate with so many people, but they did.

Taking to Facebook last October to break down why he purchased birthday goodies for his ex-wife before going over to her house to help make her breakfast with their kids (yeah, that's pretty epic), Billy shared a now-viral post that just got reshared on the Love What Matters Facebook page for all to see.

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"Per usual someone asked me why the hell I still do things for her all the time. This annoys me," Flynn writes. "So ima break it down for you all."

Yeah, you're going to want to see this message -- and possibly hang it on your refrigerator.

"I'm raising two little men. The example I set for how I treat their mom is going to significantly shape how they see and treat women and affect their perception of relationships," Dad notes. He continues:

I think even more so in my case because we are divorced. So if you aren't modeling good relationship behavior for your kids, get your sh-t together. Rise above it and be an example. This is bigger than you.

Raise good men. Raise strong women. Please. The world needs them, now more than ever.

AMEN to this!

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Look, this guy isn't perfect -- Billy's original Facebook post had a controversial line that said, "I don't care if she's a c*nt" (the post is no longer viewable to the public) -- but the message Dad is trying to convey is one we can all apply to our lives: 

We rise above our faults -- and any anger at our exes -- for the sake of our kids.

I can't thank my parents enough for leading by example and showing me that co-parenting can work. To this day, I have no idea what made them call it quits (they got divorced when I was 5), but can only remember all the times we spent together -- including random trips to the mall for the hell of it as a party of three -- when I was growing up. 

Should my husband and I ever decide to call it quits, I want to keep my parents' actions and Billy's words at the forefront of my mind. Because no matter what craziness might happen between me and my children's father (definitely not talking about abuse or other criminal acts), I want them to know you can still love and respect someone, even if you aren't romantically involved.

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Thank you, Billy, for this reminder that, hopefully, will inspire more of us to get our "sh*t together" and "raise good men" and "raise strong women."




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