Reality Star Breaks Stigma by Sharing This Moving Tribute to the Baby She Lost

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We moms are pretty vocal about every aspect of motherhood, from messy diaper explosions to postpartum body changes, but when it comes to pregnancy loss, the silence can be almost deafening. Grief is a frightening and uncomfortable thing to confront, so we often choose to suffer in silence. But one reality star has been vocal in sharing her story, and she's changing the way moms talk about miscarriage in the process. Married at First Sight star Jamie Otis just shared a moving Instagram tribute to her baby boy on what would have been his due date.

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Otis lost her son in June, only 16 weeks into her pregnancy. She wrote about the loss and shared a photo of herself cradling her stillborn baby in an open and vulnerable Instagram post this past October. Yesterday, as she grieved for her son and the labor experience she never got to have, she poured her heart out to her followers once again.

I was SO excited when I was pregnant. I've wanted to be a mommy for a very long time. I couldn't wait for my "baby bump" to get bigger and bigger. Today I'm suppose to have a sweet, full-term baby boy. He's supposed to put me in labor and scream when he comes out. His daddy and I would hold him close and let him know that everything's going to be ok. We'd kiss him and rock him in order to soothe all the pain and fear away. ....sometimes I still ask God, "Why??" I often wonder if I hadn't eaten this or lifted that maybe he'd still be safe? I know it's probably nothing I did, but It just breaks my heart knowing that his sweet little soul didn't get a chance at life. Johnathan Edward is our angel baby who's been watching over us because he was born too early. I will spend my life honoring him & loving him. ...I've come up with a few ways to cherish our angels -young & old - in heaven & I blogged about them today.�� Please, if you have any more ideas let me know. Link is in my bio. "Gone but never forgotten." #miscarriage #angel #pregnancyloss #infantloss #angelbaby #mommyofanangel @doughehner

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"Today I'm supposed to have a sweet, full-term baby boy," she wrote. "He's supposed to put me in labor and scream when he comes out. His daddy and I would hold him close and let him know that everything's going to be ok."

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Otis went on to say that she still wonders why she lost her baby, and even blames herself at times. "I often wonder if I hadn't eaten this or lifted that, maybe he'd still be safe? I know it's probably nothing I did, but it just breaks my heart knowing that his sweet little soul didn't get a chance at life," she wrote.

We rarely confront the reality of pregnancy loss and miscarriage, but it happens much more often than we'd like to believe. According to the American Pregnancy Association, as many as 25 percent of all clinically recognized pregnancies end in miscarriage. Given that figure, it's hard to believe it's something we still talk about in hushed tones and under the cloak of secrecy. Some women who miscarry never even reveal their losses to family or friends. It's simply too painful, and there's too much stigma attached.

"It wasn't my choice to survive without you. So I will spend my life living for you and honoring you." I was so happy to have you in my belly. I was 3 months pregnant with you in this photo ... little did I know a month later I'd lose you. The heartache since you left has been excruciating. Johnny, I can't help but think of what you'd look like if you were able to stay in there safe & sound & come to us like you were supposed to for Christmas. I'll always love & honor you. You're my angel baby. Even though we only met briefly & I only got to hold you & give you kisses once - I still miss you. I'll always, always love you. ��� #AngelBaby #babyboy #JohnathanEdward #miscarriage #neverforget #3months

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In her post, Otis promised to spend the rest of her life honoring her son, whom she named Jonathan Edward. And, in speaking so publicly about her loss and her sadness, she's doing just that. What grieving moms need more than anything is support, and in talking openly about her struggles, Otis is opening the door for countless others to have these tough conversations.

It's impossible to know why some pregnancies end in such devastating loss, but it is possible to stop women from having to face their grief alone. Otis's post is a powerful reminder that our stories are worth sharing and that we never ever have to wrestle with our pain in silence.

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