Mom Shamed for 6-Year-Old's 'Unicorn Hair' Has Some Parenting Advice for You

Hairstylist Mary Thomaston draws fire for 6-year-old daughter's unicorn hair

In a world filled with unthinkable calamities and so much dissension, there are some people who choose to focus on "issues" that do not concern them -- like a little girl's hairstyle. Mary Thomaston is a Florida mom who's catching heat for her 6-year-old daughter's unicorn hair makeover. Because apparently, you're a horrible parent if you choose to promote creativity and self-expression.


After hearing constant pleas from her 6-year-old and checking with their school, this mom made the decision to give her daughter a unicorn-inspired hairdo for the new school year.

And as you can see, it's pretty awesome.

My very own baby unicornð�¦ï¿½

A photo posted by Mary Thomaston (@marythomaston) on

Even if you don't know your way around a box of highlights, one would have to assume that Mary, as a hairstylist at a private studio in Panama City Beach, Florida, knows a thing or two about what is and is not safe for a person's hair -- especially that of her own daughter, Lyra.

And yet, there were people who still thought Lyra's unicorn hairstyle was unsuitable for a little girl and had no problem letting Mom know how they felt about her child's haircut.

"How long did this little girl have to sit to accomplish that! Why? Sometimes we forget they're little and not a little doll," wrote one commenter on Instagram.

"Oh no I would never let my baby do this ['til] she was at least in high school ..." mentioned another.

Some critics even questioned whether or not Mary was poisoning her child. "If that isn't temporary dye you could be doing unknown damage to the health and development of that very young child," stated one reviewer.

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Mary doesn't understand why so many people are concerned about her daughter's hairstyle. Speaking with CafeMom, she says, "I honestly don't know why it's a big deal ... It's hair, and it grows back."

"Everyone is entitled to their own opinion, but mine is the only one that matters," she adds. "I am her mom, not them."

Doesn't get much cuter than this� photo by @kiersten_grant #kierstengrantphotography#unicorntribe

A photo posted by Mary Thomaston (@marythomaston) on

When I first heard about the public "outrage" surrounding this mother and daughter, I had to stop and take pause. Aside from the fact that it's a pretty rocking hairstyle, I couldn't help but wonder if the critics pissed at Mary are also just as passionate about deeper issues making headlines.

... Or are we, as a society, that hard-pressed to lash out at a hairstylist for styling hair?

I get that a 6-year-old with rainbow hair and one side of her head shaved isn't something we're used to seeing on a daily basis. It's definitely avant-garde and pushes the envelope when it comes to traditional 'dos.

But to come after a mother -- without so much as knowing all the facts, or the thought that goes into her parenting decisions -- just isn't cool.

As it turns out, Mary doesn't need any help responding to the naysayers. Mom's clapback to critics scolding her for her parenting decision pretty much sums up an important lesson we all learned in kindergarten, but somehow always seem to forget:

If you can't find anything nice to say, don't say it at all.

"Dear haters, I have this weird goal of raising self-confident, self-assured children, who know and feel the freedom of self-expression," Mary writes in an Instagram comment. "So when my child asks for blue hair, I tell her how much I like her choice and how beautiful she is."

She adds:

I am not sure how you are raising your children, but keep your unwelcome opinions to yourself in regards to my child rearing. You don't like rainbow hair, cool, say that. These things are opinions you are entitled to, your disrespectful comments about my child are not. Lastly, I am not sure who the f*ck does your hair, if you have chosen bad stylists in that past. But you are 100% inaccurate is assuming my child's hair was damaged in this process. As a trained and licenced stylist, I can assure you it was not.

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Life is too short to get caught up in hairdos and whether or not a choice of highlight color is to our liking. If you think Lyra's hairstyle is awesome, cool -- and if you don't, cool.

Let's just stop focusing on decisions other moms and dads make -- that are likely trivial to our own lives -- and start looking for more ways we can love our own children.



Image via marythomaston/Instagram

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