'Off-Grid' Mom & Dad Want Us to Pay for Their Extreme Parenting? Hell, No!

off-grid familyMoms and dads preaching to the virtual masses about why their chosen style of child-rearing is better than anyone else's is nothing new (unfortunately). But now one self-proclaimed "off-grid" British family is taking this parental proselytizing to another level by asking strangers to help fund their family's lifestyle -- which includes "lotus birthing," not wearing shoes, and eschewing vaccinations and all other forms of modern medicine -- all for the low price of $100,000!


Matt and Adele Allen have made headlines before for the "unconventional" way they're raising their 5-year-old son Ulysses and 1-year-old daughter Ostara, but this latest development is really raising some eyebrows. Because the parents aren't just planning on moving their kids to Costa Rica to get as "off-grid" and "self-sufficient" as possible, they're asking the Internet at large (via a FundMyTravel.com campaign) to make this huge move financially possible. As they explain on their FundMyTravel page, the $100K they're hoping to receive would cover the cost of "flights, a plot of land, and other expenses" and would enable them to "grow food, and have access to wildlife and nature in its natural state."

Well, that sounds lovely ... until you consider that none of that $100K is going toward vaccinations or medicine of any kind -- or even shoes, for that matter. As Matt says in the below video, not wearing shoes is a great way for kids to "feel life" even on dirty city streets. (As my 15-year-old daughter noted while watching the clip, "Why is he wearing shoes, then?") 

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I'll say this much -- those kids are adorable. And their parents clearly love them -- but we all know science is not on their side.

Still, the point here isn't really that the Allens are endangering their children -- even if they are -- or that they're eccentric weirdos for the whole lotus birth thing (the practice of allowing the placenta and umbilical cord to fall off naturally) or for turning up their noses at traditional bedtimes. The point is that they're turning to the very on-grid Internet to ask other people -- people who may well have parenting styles that the Allens disapprove of -- to pay for them to live off-grid. Um, does that make any sense at all?

What's troubling here is the sense of entitlement and oblivion on display -- not to mention the self-righteousness. Because it would be one thing if the Allens were live-and-let-live types, but honestly, they don't seem to be. In the video, for example, Adele likens the "crying it out" method of putting a baby to sleep as a form of "child abuse," which isn't a very tolerant thing to say. (Even if, for the record, they say they "accept" other people's parenting choices and don't judge them.) And what about all the other kids -- kids with weakened immune systems and other conditions that make them especially vulnerable to diseases -- they're potentially putting in danger by not vaccinating their own children?

Look, I'm not even saying I disagree with everything the Allens believe in. I couldn't hack the crying-it-out thing with any of my three kids either, I breastfed all of them until they were toddlers, and sure, my 20-month-old occasionally goes shoeless at the park. I even once tried to use breast milk to clear up my son's eye infection, a technique Adele swears by, but that's only because the pediatrician's office was closed for the weekend -- and guess what? It didn't work. At all.

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But I'm certainly not asking anyone to pay for me to do any of this stuff, and I'm not trying to say that my way of parenting is THE BEST way for all parents everywhere (or even for myself, sometimes). Although, you know what? Maybe I should. Maybe we all should! Stay tuned for more info on my new "parenting style," which will include moving to a private island in the tropics and allowing my (fully vaccinated) kids to roam free with no shoes on all day while I sip umbrella drinks and watch Netflix. I call it "what grid?" parenting and it should only cost about $200K to get started. 

Let the donating begin!


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