Mom Shares Emotional Letter to Doctor Who Told Her to Abort Down Syndrome Baby

Mom Courtney Williams Baker shares emotional letter to doctor who told her to abort child with Down Syndrome

Every child is precious, no matter what anyone says. When a prenatal specialist told Courtney Williams Baker her child would have Down syndrome -- and recommended terminating the pregnancy because of it -- the Florida mother felt despair, but remained hopeful. This mom's letter to her doctor who suggested abortion is an emotional reminder of the importance of unconditional love, support, and understanding -- for all children and families.

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"... Emersyn has not only added to our quality of life, she's touched the hearts of thousands. She's given us a purpose and a joy that is impossible to express."

I can't help but applaud Courtney's decision to write her doctor a letter. Sadly, it's too easy for mothers to feel their voices are silenced throughout their pregnancy. With the help of her 15-month-old daughter Emersyn Faith, Mom expressed everything she felt while she was pregnant but was too afraid to say.

Sharing her open letter on Facebook, Courtney writes:

I didn’t know the truth yet about my baby, and that’s what I desperately needed from you. But instead of support and encouragement, you suggested we abort our child. I told you her name and you asked us again if we understood how low our quality of life would be with a child with Down syndrome. You suggested we reconsider our decision to continue the pregnancy. From that first visit, we dreaded our appointments.

Beautiful and perfectly written in every way, Courtney.

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Even with her frustrations and sadness, Courtney refuses to let anger and bitterness fill her heart -- which is pretty amazing in itself -- and offers her former doctor loving advice that will surely help expectant mothers who are carrying a child with Down syndrome.

So my prayer is that no other mommy will ever have to go through what I did. My prayer is that you, too, will now see true beauty and pure love with every life displayed on every sonogram. And my prayer is when you see that next baby with Down syndrome lovingly tucked in her mother’s womb, you will look at that mommy and see me, then tell her the truth…

'Your child is absolutely perfect.'

Wow.

Where do you start with something like this?

There is no amount of words that can express how much I admire this mother for speaking up. While there's nothing wrong with doctors giving advice (that's what they're there for), it saddens me to think there are some who would push for a mother to terminate her pregnancy, just because a baby might be a little "different." This makes me think about other mommies who were once in Courtney's situation, and how much their choice might've been swayed at the thought of a child with Down syndrome causing a "low quality of life."

So many expectant moms feel like their doctors don't listen to them. (I know I did.) That's what makes this story even more wonderful. Courtney followed her heart and made the best decision for her family, even if it meant going against her doctor's "orders."

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And, if Courtney's message to her doctor doesn't touch your heart, wait until you read the open letter this mom wrote to parents expecting a child with Down syndrome. Sharing on her Facebook page, Courtney writes:

I can promise you that your child has a grand purpose. They will light up what can be a very dark world, and make you happy when all else makes you sad.

So as you process the words of the doctors and specialists, my greatest hope is that you can know the truth and feel that love even now as you child grows within you. Your child’s life has already changed the world.

And it’s only just begun.

Courtney likely has no clue how many lives she has touched with her words. It's far too common (and accepted) in today's society to write off children who are "different" as less than normal and blemished in some way.

And that couldn't be further from the truth.

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Thank you, Courtney, for sharing your journey with us. Emmy looks like a sweet girl full of such promise to change this world. Continue instilling in her encouraging words and how perfect she was made to become a woman that will make an impact in this society.

 

 

Image via Courtney Williams Baker/Facebook

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