Complete Stranger Formula-Shames New Mom in Target & Her Response Is Perfect

breast is best viral responseIt can be annoying enough to receive unsolicited advice as a new parent, but it's infuriating when you feel judged by another mother for the way you're feeding your baby. One mom's open letter in response to a stranger who attempted to formula-shame her in a Target -- by insisting "breast is best" -- has gone viral.


Annie Ferguson Muscato rightfully took issue with a woman who had the nerve to tell her how to feed her infant. What this stranger didn't know is the arduous and heartbreaking journey Muscato had already endured in an attempt to breastfeed. Take a look:

She's so right when she points out that there isn't a clear, one-size-fits-all answer for everyone:

I know you think I must not care or I'm lazy, or maybe you were genuinely trying to be helpful and thought no one had ever told me the benefits of breast feeding. But, you are wrong. What I know that you don't is that breast ISN'T always best. I know happy, healthy baby is best. I know FED is best.

You can just imagine this mom's relief when her baby began interacting, smiling, and sleeping well. The panic and fear she must have felt for her infant were at long last put to rest. And based on that adorable photo, it looks like her daughter is thriving, which, as this mom knows all too well, is really the ultimate goal.

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It's one thing to try to offer a new mom helpful advice; it's another to force your parenting opinions on a complete stranger as she's trying to buy groceries for her family. We can only hope that this woman -- and others inclined to share their unsolicited advice -- hear Muscato's words and take them to heart:

So, dear stranger, next time you see someone buying formula, try to remember that mamas should support each other. Think about everything you might not know. Remind yourself that 'fed is best' and smile because it means someone loves their baby enough to do what's best for them.

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We give this mom tons of credit for going home and writing a thoughtful open letter rather than flipping out on this stranger -- as she easily could've done, given all she's been through!

Most moms already put a ton of pressure on themselves to try to do everything right for their children. What gives a complete stranger the right to tell you what's best for your child ... and where do you draw the line? Imagine if strangers told you to put back your chips and buy some apples instead?

This story is just another reminder that we never really know what someone else's experience has been, so rather than judge, let's accept -- and, more importantly, mind our own business. 



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